2.1 major separation issues

[Chirpychick2010]

Hi I need helpppppp! I have lovely little girl who after taking dummy away has become so clingy I can't even leave the room without her screaming for me and lashes out if someone is holiding her trying to get to me, I presume it's dummy that's caused upset as nothing else has changed, tried to leave her at a crèche I was only upstairs and she got into that much of a state she vomited everywhere, I have explained mommy doing x then will be back or just let mommy cook tea and then we will do x but it's not working and this has been going on now for about 6 weeks and I'm starting to feel guilty and trapped any ideas guys I also have 16-18 year old sons and never had this problem although she is so active she never stops or plays with anything for more then a few mins at a time. Thanks in advance.

Both my dd's have become v. clingy at about the same age my littler one is doing the same at the mo so I know how you feel. My older DS's didn't go through this phase. From my experience with my older dd they do get throught this phase I found I just had to take it slowly. It helped to get her involved in doing something alongside me or in her highchair while I got jobs done. I also made sure that if I was going to try and leave her for any length of time that I made a thing about saying goodbye so she knew I was going, that helps them distinguish between when you're just popping out of the room and when you really need to leave them. I also tried talking to her if I was out of the room so she knew I was still there to improve her security. A special toy or doll she can take with her to replace the dummy also helps especially something soft that you have slept with and smells of you can be useful. When they get like this it can feel restrictive for a while but keep persisting with short separations this phase doesn't last forever even though it can feel like it at times.

Thanks x