4 year old constantly asking for cuddles

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DD who is 4 years and 8 months is going through a phase of constantly asking for cuddles.

At first it was very nice but I?m now noticing that she is doing it more and more especially if she is being told to do something, being told off, not doing as she is doing etc. It feels like she is doing it as either a delay tactic or to try and get round DH and I.

We are unsure of the best way to deal with it as obviously we don?t want to say no if she is asking for a cuddle but feel that if she is doing it at a time when it?s not appropriate then we have to say something.

We are having a few other issues with DD?s behaviour in general at the moment in that she just does not seem to listen to us, do as she is told, is talking back etc.

Please help.

I have a 5 year old DS and he's the same. You have to be firm, reassure her that she is still loved, but that she still has to do the right thing. I find myself saying things like "yes I want a cuddle too, but we have to wait until we've done x. Can you help me with that?" It might take a while to sink in, but be patient and you'll get there in the end, I'm sure.

Thanks for your reply. I'll give your suggestions a try. I'm hoping it's a phase adn it will pass soon.

did she start school in September? mine dd of same age did and I found that asking for cuddles has been more noticable

No, she does not start until this August.

Bless her....I love cuddles but yes, 1st answer was right, tell her she'll get lots of cuddles as soon as she's done...whatever it is. She's sly!! ha ha ...cause you can't really feel mad at someone who comes up and cuddles you. At least it's a socially acceptable thing and she's not being violent!. GL