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Toilet training severe problems

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Louise49 · 28/01/2012 21:19

My son is 3 and a half fine in all other ways apart from a bit highly strung, I am having teriible problems with toilet training. He still poos and wets himself regularly despite me trying to toilet train him for over a year now. He wears a pull up nappy at night which is usually wet in the morning. He does use his potty and toilet at the nursery but still has loads of accidents that is nearly a year now. I try to take him to the toilet every hour when I can but at the nursery their policy is to wait until the child asks for the toilet my son rarely asks for the toilet. I have tried bribery with him no use. When I try to talk to him about it he doesnt listen. I am getting really desperate I dont want to go back to nappies it is really difficult to take him anywhere cos of the possibility of accidents. If I try to take him to the toilet he often throws a tantrum. He is not too bad on the potty uses that better. Help I am at my wits end.

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Pandemoniaa · 29/01/2012 00:08

Three and a half is still quite little and the fact that he is still having so many accidents suggests he simply isn't ready yet. Perhaps take a little time away from the intensive training which he appears to be getting very wound up by and see what happens. I'd also ask the nursery to actively remind him to go to the toilet. I'm surprised that they expect such young children to be responsible for asking.

fivegomadindorset · 29/01/2012 00:10

Take a break, put him back in nappies, try again, if not successful then ask for help.

mamseul · 29/01/2012 00:16

try not to let it get you down. My DD1 was still having quite a few accidents until shortly before she started school full time. In her case, she just wasn't that bothered and all sorts of things could distract her from remembering to go to the toilet or asking to go. I think while she was at nursery and mixing with lots of younger kids who were still in nappies that also gave her the idea that using the toilet properly wasn't such a big deal.

Have you tried sticker charts with a little treats for completing a row etc?

I know everyone says that going back to nappies just confuses the issue, but when we were at this stage if I knew an accident would be a big deal then I just stuck DD1 back in pull-ups. (I did this sparingly but went for it for a family wedding and a couple of long car journeys where I thought it pretty likely DD1 would fall asleep.)

fivegomadindorset · 29/01/2012 00:18

Can Injust ad that I am a parent of a child that is still in nappies at age 6 becuase of issues of pooing on the loo (not nappies at school)

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