2 year old being hit in nursery - should i move her?

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my 3 year old is in a top 'outstanding' (acc. to ofsted!) nursery. but one day was bitten on the face at nursery.
the next day i went to wtach her at play and within half an hour another child had hit her twice?!
the staff did nothing - they did not discipline the chid or ask him to apologise and havent mentioned it to me as a problem..

is this normal? do all kids get hit at nursery or is this not accpetable?

she also is very quiet and insecure at nursery compared to at home and hardly says a word

Its not acceptable, but it is pretty normal for littlies - they do seem to go through phases of it.
However, the staff should be disciplining the children in question - i.e. moving them away from the situation and explaining to them what they are doing is wrong. It should not be ignored, otherwise they arent learning not to do it.
A bite warrants an incident report for both parents imo. Hitting should be nipped in the bud immediately. The children in our nursery are pulled up for pushing and shoving, never mind hitting.

we have a similar situation - there's a rather difficult boy who hits frequently, but the staff do act on it as best they can. My dd is 3 and is quite upset by it (and I am sure sometimes embellishes, somewhat), but moving her would seem to be the last resort. Firstly, she (my dd, that is) does need to learn strategies (so I have told her not to play with him unless she wants to, to be sure to tell a staff member if he hits her etc) as I doubt there is nursery in the land without a hitter. Secondly, it would feel like a punishment to her in a way - she is settled there, she has little friends, and knows the staff well, and she has done nothing wrong - I worry that she would think she was at fault if I moved her. Plus they are very flexible on hours which suits us.

The biting incident is worrying and the staff should be intervening with the hitting - can you talk to the manager about your concerns? That would be my first port of call.

Yeah I agree. The staff should step in. Trained staff should do so automatically. In our nursery they take action as a matter of course.
But it is something they come up against every day.

The truth is that kids are brutal to each other, it's just the way they are. Socialisation takes years!
It is not something to get worked up about. We made the rookie mistake of making a big fuss when DS1 got bitten at nursery. It led to a fair bit of animosity with the parents of the biter, who we thought were 'in denial'. We were furious with them for being incompetent parents and with the school for, as we saw it, trying to protect them.

Then DS2 came along. He was not a biter, but, god he loved to throw. Fierce grip, fabulous aim... At 2 I am convinced he might actually have made the discus team for the Olympics .
Obviously that's not how the parents of his victims saw it... Furious mums of sweet little blonde girls waited for me in corridors so they could tell me about bruises and crying and bumps. How could I allow it? What did I do to make him like that?
Well, I didn't do anything. DS1was never that way inclined. I felt awful ... Concerned, embarrassed, confused... Suddenly it dawned on me what the parents of the little boy who had bitten DS1 must have been going through. I actually tried to make contact with the mum but she didn't want to talk. Her son had long got over his proclivity and was a happy, outgoing kid, on the football team.
Trust me, they are not monsters, they could be any kid. Some of them just go through their own little exploration of what this biting or throwing or hitting thing means.
But the staff need to know how to deal with it... And I think they shoul be trained how to deal with the parents too.