new baby due and 8 year old not happy

[justwantcheese]

i'm due in june and my 8 yr old dd is not happy at all,she keeps bursting into tears as just wants it to be the 3 of us. she has started calling me by my first name as she says i will no longer be her mummy. she has also started being really nasty to me and name calling.
we have had lots of cuddles and i tell her constantly how much i love her but that things are going to change when baby arrives but not necessarily for the worse.
any advice much appreciated,

She's feeling very insecure and is unsure about how she'll fit into the family once the new baby arrives. It's perfectly normal. She needs a lot of reassurance. Is she involved in everything? Helping you to buy clothes etc? This can help. You need to emphasise that she's still going to be your daughter and nothing in the world will stop you from loving her. She'll have a little brother or sister who is going to love her as well and you have more then enough love for both of them.

My niece (now 7) went through a phase like this when her younger sister was due, she used to refer to her as 'the alien' before she was born. Now she loves her to bits and they play together all the time.

Have you got a plan in place so that you can still have special time just with her once baby arrives?

My ds is 6 days old and my dd is 8 1/2. She has expressed similar anxieties about her perceived displacement since I became pregnant. We took her to scans etc, and have involved her in buying clothes and blankets etc. It was calamitous because I had to spend a few weeks pre-birth on hospital, which she found very upsetting. However, since he was born, she has been great-we have let her do lots of firsts-choose first outfit, gave him his first bath etc. She has been a bit notice-boxey, and I have been trying to give her lots of attention whilst sticking to normal boundaries.

Anyway-too sleep addled to make much sense. Just wanted to say we have been in a similar situation, tackled it with understanding but not accepting bad behaviour, and by involving her in the pregnancy and birth as far as possible-and so far, we're ok.

Best of luck.

I'm kind of going through the same thing, my 8yr old is getting bad with little stuff, like hiding things under her pillow (like tissues and little toys) and acting out!

My sister in law is also pregnant and she is mega excited about having 2 more cousins but won't even talk about my pregnancy... We went shopping for clothes for the baby the other day and she wouldn't accept that it was for her baby brother or sister and wasn't for her cousin! I had to come home early as I was gutted and couldn't handle it.

I'm going to try and engage her with things like the scans etc and hopefully, once she'll see the baby she'll understand that the baby is her sister or brother!!

Any extra advice would be gratefully received!! X