aggressive 12 month old

[lilmamma]

My grandson hits you when you tell him off,he keeps moving the coal off the fire (only a show fire) and we tell him no and move him away and put the coal back,he goes into a paddy,even grabbing his teddy and biting its ear,i know its because he is frustrated,but if you pick him up to move him,he will try to bite you or try to claw at your face.He doesnt do it all the time,he even grabs his hair and pulls it,i have had 4 children and none of mine ever did this at such a young age.He is always on the go,is really loving towards to the dog,pats it and says aww,he loves to mimic and polishes with me and mops the floor,he doesnt sleep very well and wakes several times every night,you tell him no till you are blue in the face and it makes no difference,he is too young for the naughty step,anyone have any ideas,he always goes to the dogs bowl,and trys to tip the water on the floor,i keep it up out the way but the dog needs to drink,and if you forget he does his best to get to it.

He is generally a happy little boy,loves going out in his pram or the car,loves music and to dance,its just his temper,dont want him to end up the child at nursery who hits or bites the other children.

okay

fit a fireguard

can the dog bowl go in the dog's crate

gate off the kitchen or room where the dog sleeps so that the dog has a safe place

develop a swerve so that he can't reach your face when you pick him up - rugby ball hold is v effective

make sure he gets masses of attention for doing stuff that you like - saying No is v draining. If you are blue in the face from saying No then stop it - try saying ''steady'', of course distract, divert as usual

I've got a 12 month old dgd. She walked at just 10 months so is now confidently and determinedly everywhere!

She's not aggressive, admittedly, but I don't find that constantly saying "no" is very effective. Especially since she smiles, charmingly, at you, shakes her head in agreement and then goes straight back for a raid on the washing machine or the wine cupboard.

I'm not a great believer in naughty steps at any age, nor do I think constant tellings off of babies very productive but I do believe in keeping the most obvious sources of temptation out of reach. I'm also a great fan of diverting little ones with something more interesting to do or play with.

I doubt that your grandson's paddies mean he'll be the bitey child at nursery - ds1 was a great tantrummer but tended to keep this for home! - but as you say, he is clearly getting frustrated so can you perhaps head him off at the pass with some other, permitted activity, before he throws a wobbly?

thanks for the replies,the dog doesnt have a crate as such,so once fed,i will lift the food up,i dont want a fireguard and dont think its needed,he needs to know he doesnt touch the fire.I never had one with my children.

I have moved most things,but there is only a limit to what can be moved,his latest is to turn the tv off and on.but i think i will give the no a miss,and try the divert tatics.

I think it's irresponsible to not have a fire guard when there are young children. I understand this is your home but it also need to be safe.

12 months is very young and a baby can't be expected to keep themselves safe. Rather than saying no, why don't you scoop him up and go do something else with him. It sounds like you are expecting a lot from a baby.

DS is 11 month old and exactly like this! I try to baby proof the house as much as possible to minimise these situations. If I need to pick him up to move him away from something or take something off him I tell him what I'm doing first and then pick him up from behind so that he can't bite me or scratch my face. When I put him down I sit a bit out of reach. If he does bite or scratch me I put him down say no and Ignore him for a minute. When he is having a paddy I just let him get on with it stay out of reach but am ready to jump in with a fun toy or game the moment he gets over it.

mamamaiasura i dont need a fireguard,as i said it is no a real fire only a show one,and i dont expect a lot from him at all,i dont know where you got that idea from.. and hardboiledpossum,im going to try thr picking him up from behind,we got him a set with a brush and mop in it today,and loves to copy me doing jobs and dusting,he is funny.