Advice greatly appreciated!

[Floopy21]

I have a one year old DD. & I'm struggling. She wants to be carried all of the time, & isn't really happy playing for any length of time. Every time I put her in a highchair she has a tantrum. She screams when I put her down at night unless I have my hand on her stomach, which I really can't do anymore. I'm sort of CC at the moment, staying in the room next to her & 'soothing' through my voice, but it doesn't really help. I feel like I just need some time without her crying or being carried! I don't suppose anyone has any advice/insight? Many many thanks...

Hi Floopy21,
I'd say this sounds like anxiety. Wanting to be near you, cant have you leave the room for a second, and wanting touch reassurance at night. Although my DD is 2 yrs now it sounds similar (especially the night time thing).
I'm not saying it'll work but please look into the Supernanny website. There's some really good advice, and routines for giving babies more confidence and less reliance on you. The night time routine we're doing is about DD being able to see you, but no physical or eye contact (please look for my daily updated thread on how we're getting on, to give you some idea as to what the routine is). It's going to need strong will but it'll hopefully show some results after a few days to a week.

I'd also say reward good behaviour as best you can (but not spoil), with lots of praise and cheers when she does something right. It may be you do this already of course, and DD's a little young to fully understand what it is she has done or hasn't done.
I'm not saying I hold all the answers but I hope you can gain some help from my reply.
Keep your chin up!, and remember, a little crying isn't going to do any long term, traumatic damage. Hope all works out for you. Keep the thread updated and we can try and help you out.