We live abroad, but DD goes to an english "school" one morning a week, mostly because I wanted her to have contact with other english kids. At first she loved it. Now she keeps coming home sad and hungry (and grumpy because she is hungry), because at break-time this boy keeps asking her for part of her snack and insisting until she gives him the lion's share. Or saying if you don't, I won't be friends with you. Last term he (Boy 1) brought his own and took part of hers w/o sharing - it is happening every week. She thinks that if she gives him things, then he will like her. Also she gets on really well with another boy (boy 2) and they all play together. Boy 2 is keen to play with DD and tries to bridge the gap when Boy 1 is being a pain. (Boy 2 - swaps some of his for some of hers - and a fair amount).
Boy 1 can be a little sulky pest, unless his mother is around - who thinks he is the perfect little gentleman, ever so talented etc etc and keeps going on how boy 2 is a bad influence! Boy 2 can be a daredevil, but he has a really lovely gentle nature.
This week, Boy 1 had no snack, so pressured her. He is 6, she is 5. His mother has somehow got herself a job as a teaching assistant, so if he was hungry, surely he could go and ask his mother! I've told her to reply, if you are hungry, go and ask your mother. But will that make it worse? I've already told her that friends share when they both like what the other has got, and they share equally. If he won't do that, then he isn't behaving like a friend.
Its got worse now as she has been moved into the class above Boy 1 and Boy 2 and Boy 1's mother is the teaching assistant (she's on the committee so assume that is how she got the position because she isn't remotely qualified, but that is a different story). It seems like a bit of a non event, but DD gets low blood sugar quite easily, and doesn't cope well with feeling hungry. She was bullied a year ago, when she stood up for another child, and I want to help her become politely assertive again. I just don't know how.