4 year old, parents split....

[sillymummy2]

Just wanted to hear others experience of splitting with their partners, how it affected the children? I read somewhere that children are most affected between 3-6 years of age and the teenage years.

My DC are 6 and 8 and XH and I split last year when they were 5 and 7. They seem to be fine tbh - both have their moments but I don't think too much connected with the split. Helps that XH and I are as amicable as is possible and that he lives nearby and they see him a lot (in fact probably more than when we were together).

I on the other hand am not so great, but I'll get by

We have a 4yo and DH has just left about a month ago. So far so good - he hardly seems to have noticed but then DH wasn't very hands on and we are very amicable. He seems to have just accepted it.

Sorry to jump in here, but what did you tell them? My ExP moves out in Feb and has effectively been a SD to my DS, 7. My DD is 18mths, so wont really register.

We all sat down togetger and said that Daddy was going to live in another house and that they'd live here but would stay with him quite often. Didn't go into any more detail than that, and didn't say about Mummies and Daddies not loving each other seeing as I still did at that stage (am working on that!) I think DS got sad but was quickly reassured. It helped that we went away a few days later and H was able to take his stuff without us being around.

Thanks x