Please help need advice.

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My DD (2.5.yrs) has started to push another 2 year old girl. She doesn't push any other child just this one. i am worried she is going to really hurt her as she pushed her hard today into a wall. I am good friends with her mum and dont want to stop our friendship due to this behaviour. I tried (as best you can) to asked her why she did it but she just replied that she pushed her. We have recently made a big move. Could this be the reason? But it doesn't explain why its only at this other child. PLEASE HELP I am very upset by this.

She is too little to give a good explanation for her behaviour. Did you punish her? Physical aggression should be punished right away with a short time out IMO.

Hi, I feel for you. My daughter could be quite physical with other children. It was completely unprovoked and made me feel lousy. i would watch her playing and dread the moment she would lash out or bite. My health visitor was not very helpful when i asked for advice so my strategy was to seperate her from the play. I didnt like to single her out like this as i was worried that the other kids would label or blame her when she hadnt done anything wrong.
The key thing is to let her know it is wrong but dont let it affect your relationship with her and give lots of praise when she is playing nicely. If it is any comfort they grow out of it and my daughter at 16 is the most gentlest, considerate person you could ever meet. Good luck , keep calm ,be firm and consistent and lots of cuddles when she plays well.

I agree with CailinDana that 2.5 is a little young to be able to give a coherent answer to why she pushed someone. The important think is that she understands it is not acceptable behaviour. Have you tried any methods, eg time out? If it carries on I would try taking her home (after one warning) when this occurs.

My DS2 was a pusher until 26m but thankfully seems to have stopped now. It wasn't one specific child, but there were certainly some children he was more likely to push than others.

Agree with others, asking for explanations is pointless, instant intervention is needed, not least to reassure your friend. I used to lift dd straight out and take her home.