ds is 4.5 and is a lovely kid, (also have a gorgeous dd age 2) he s probably a bit sensitive and a worrier but he s such high maintenance he s driving me daft
IF things go wrong he has a complete meltdown ... eg trying to put on his shoes or dress himself .. which he does successfully most of the time , if he cant get his foot in properly - he ll immediately throw shoe on the floor and lie down shouting ' oh no i cant do it waaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhh'
and so it continues .....lunch is not what he wanted ...' waaaaahhhhhh i wanted the blue plate' or in a game if it s going wrong .. cue meltdown.... or his favourite jersey is not clean etc
I ve tried staying calm/passive/ not over reacting/ but i think it s getting worse
I ve read and regularly use 'how to talk....' techniques ... but either I m not conisitent enough.... which could well be true though id do try but admit that when I m tired or stressed i m no way as patient as I d like ... but I d say I m about 70 % consistent with the techniques ... Something is not working or changing I m seriously wondering if there s something else we re doing wrong He is PFB and probably 'helicoptered' a bit my us though I notice when DH is around DH is probably less content to leave him to it and tends to overly shadow him ( e.g as in a running commentry on what ds shouldnt do when we visited dh s mam who is a bit particular about what to kids do/touch when in her house)
Sorry if I m rambling
I guess I m wondering if it s 'normal'
DS is also a worrier....... e.g worried about car being clamped when we park (we had told hima story where someone got clamped ) worried about me leaving the room with the cooker / lights/ fire on (thanks fireman sam)
As a baby he was easliy hyperalert and a light sleeper though he s much much better now, but he really does get upset/ over excited/ over react about trivial things
It s of course worse when he s tired/ after a day in creche/ hungry so i try ensure regular bed times and regular meals and less treats etc.
Does anyone else have any tried tested techniques, has anyone come through this I m finding it very trying and difficult to stay patient (when i really want to scream )
thanks in advance