Can anyone suggest how to help my DD 'get used' to my parents!

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Hello - I am currently staying with my darling mother and her wonderful partner who live abroad. 4month old DD seems to dissolve into floods of tears every time either of them cuddle her/try to help me. Its breaking my heart and I wanted to go out for a few hours alone this week I know despite their protestations I know its upsetting them as they want to help and they adore her. As soon as I'm holding her she is smiles and loves cooing at them but when I leave the room or pass her over she starts to cry and it quickly descends into hysterics. Of course I'm secretly pleased that I'm doing something right as she loves me above all others but I would like her to love them too! Should I continue as I am and pass her over for short spells and let her get upset? I dont want to reinforce the feeling that I am 'rescuing' her but equally I dont want her to be upset either. does anyone have any similar experience or advice?

It's just time and reassurance that she needs.

If she gets upset, then take her back immediately. She needs the reassurance from you that all is well - if you leave her to get upset, she's going to associate them with being upset and you not comforting her which will make it worse.

She will learn from you that these are safe people to be around - so if she sees that you are happy and relaxed with them, she will learn that it's OK for her to be around them too. It's your job to 'rescue' her, and 4 months is still very little

She will love them, but she's not very old at all and I guess as they are abroad, she doesn't see much of them so to her they're strangers (who love her very much, of course!) This won't be forever - it's normal :)

I'm agree with Flisspaps. 4 months is the age when the mother is more important than relatives. Be patient and try the introduction again in 4-5 months. You could use Skype, for instance, if your mother is abroad.

Flisspaps that is what I thought - I'm just letting her take her time, we are here for another week. We've only been here for 2 days. They just adore her and want to cuddle her all the time - this is the first time we've stayed anywhere other than home as well and she clearly knows that too.