13 month old big for her age

[EverythingsNotRosie]

I am sure there have been threads about this before, just wanted some quick advice. My DD has always been on the very top of the chart for weight and height, which means that now she is walking she looks older than she is. I have noticed over the holidays people expecting her to be able to say and do things she cannot do yet, and getting cross with her when she behaves like the baby she still is- for example, not sitting properly on her chair, dropping food, not saying please, needing to be carried or in the buggy.

Any advice on how to deal with this? Or is it just constant repetition of 'She's only 13 months!'??!

Smile and ignore. DD's always been top of the charts and at 4yo is the youngest in the school but tallest in reception and taller than most y1 children. People used to tell me off for letting her truant at age 3. Seriously, ignore.

Once when I was carrying DS1 and lots of bags a woman said to me 'can't he walk?'. I said 'no, he's only 7 months'!! Why do strangers feel the need to comment on this sort of thing anyway?!

Hmmm. In our case it's not strangers, it's family members- and they know how old she is! Thank you for your responses, at least it's not just us. I will perfect my smile and ignore!

Well if they know her age and still do it then there's no hope. Quietly pity them.

We were being kept on the children's ward once- DS has fallen out of a bumbo and banged his head (be warned about bumbos!). A doctor doing rounds took him and went to put him down on the floor. DS immediately sat. The Dr looked quite concerned for a second and said 'How confidently is he walking normally?' He was 8 months old!

He's still off the charts for height and weight and tbh even we sometimes expect too much of him. It is just a case or repeating 'remember he's only x' ad nauseum.

I had just the opposite, a tiny DD who was walking (holding onto furniture, cruising really) before 7 months and walking confidently alone at 10 months and she just looked all wrong You can't please anyone IME. DS walked at 10/11 months too but he is a more average sized baby so didn't look so strange.

We have the same problem with DD1. She's always been at the top of the chart and done most things early which compounds the problem. I normally find ways of working her age into any conversations with strangers (she's 5 now) and have to constantly remind myself as I too struggle sometimes! In fact at one point I was asking her to do something and she looked up at me and said, 'but Mummy, I am only 3 you know'. That was me told.