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Toddler table manners

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bigredtractor · 30/12/2011 10:28

Hi,

We have a 15 mo DS who is a great eater - will eat, or at least try, pretty much everything. No problems in that regard. He's a whizz with a spoon and feeds himself nicely.

However, he will throw or drop bits of his dinner - while looking at us and smiling. And paint with his food, using his hands - splodge it all over his highchair etc. Not all the time, but occasionally.

We've tried saying no, but it makes him laugh so now we ignore it and take the food away if he's finished eating and is just playing, telling him 'all finished' or something like that. We give him lots of praise for eating & eating nicely.

My gut instinct is that this is normal and we shouldn't really stop him unless it's too bad - e.g. deliberately flinging handfuls about. He DOESN'T do that, I'm just using it as an example. I also think that he eats well because he enjoys his mealtimes and don't want him to be afraid of getting messy or getting food on his hands.

It's just that we're starting to get a few comments from family about how they wouldn't allow their kids to do it.

I'm just wondering whether you all agree and what age to try and address this further (or is it something he will grow out of)? He is our first and neither of my parents are alive, so will rely on MN wisdom!

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Flisspaps · 30/12/2011 10:34

It's normal. He's exploring textures and the effects of gravity. In fact, as a CM I actively encourage the exploration of food like this - it's good for the development of motor skills and for creative development and mark making (a precursor to writing)

Taking it away when he's clearly finished eating is fine, but I certainly never say anything if they're messing with the food and still eating some.

Do the people who make comments actually have children?

Well done on getting him to eat with a spoon - DD is 21mo and will generally hold a spoon in one hand and scoop food into her mouth with the other Xmas Grin

savoycabbage · 30/12/2011 10:35

You sound like you are doing everything right to me! Get new friends!

I agree that you want him to know meal times are enjoyable and that it is ok to get a bit messy.

bigredtractor · 30/12/2011 10:38

Ha ha - yes, one was my Grandmother, who had 3 DC and 7 grandkids, and the other was my godmother, who had 3 and was my mum's best friend!

I just think that people forget...

Thanks for the reassurance!

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savoycabbage · 30/12/2011 10:45

Yes, I do think that people forget. My mother is staying with me at the moment and when I was making dinner yesterday she was saying something about how the dc had already had breakfast and lunch and I has to remind her that she had fed me three times a day.Confused

yousankmybattleship · 30/12/2011 10:47

You are obviously doing the right thing because he is enjoying his food which is the main thing at that age. Manners can come a bit later! I think he's really too young to understand why you should be tidy when eating. Maybe your friends are a bit envious because he is enjoying himself and their mealtimes with little ones are more stressful?

Pascha · 30/12/2011 10:49

Envy at your 15 month old using a spoon voluntarily. Mine thinks its a drumstick or a missile.

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