Getting my 2month old to sleep

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Pls help, it's wired I'm asking for help as have a 3 year old already but my new baby boy I can't seem to get him to sleep, ok he's asleep now but he won't put himself to sleep I have to hold him or breast feed him to sleep, he gets really badly over tired and then it gets really hard! We are on a routine kind of but say today it's nearly 11 he was tired at ten he is due his next feed about one he won't sleep till one he's up and down need to get him into a deep sleep in the day in his bed....

Just looked at him he's awake!!! He is so so tired! Why won't he just sleep!

My honest opinion is that you can spend weeks trying to get your 2 month old to sleep for a stretch in his bed during the day and you might finally achieve it. At a time when he's developmentally ready to do that. So you can try and force it but I suspect you'll find he just won't do it until he's ready.

A 2 month old baby generally needs help to settle and will always prefer to be snuggled close to you. What you end up doing is fighting against the needs of a brand new baby.

Is there any way you can accommodate his needs. You might find he sleeps much better. So if he needs to be close to you, try a sling. If he wants to feed to sleep, feed at the sign of the first cue he's tired (will happen 1-1.5hrs after waking up), not waiting for overtired yawning and crying. Find ways of entertaining the 3yo that involves sitting down feeding ie reading books, colouring, playing quiet games etc.

Have you also tried swaddling, dummy, warming the bed etc? I have a 16wo ds and if you miss the window when he's just starting to get tired, he become a fractious, angry, frustrated bag of noise. He cannot manage more than 90 minutes awake and after about 75 minutes he needs to be fed, the room to be calm and to slowly drop off to sleep. He naps for an hour at a time (in the sling), never deeply really but he's happy and this is his natural routine.

Can u move in with me?! Than u very much your prob right but I do so want together him into good sleeping habits from the start