A long one so please bear with me! After a difficult experience in family court, my ex now has our daughter for alternate weekends and half of the holidays. This has been going on for a few months now and we are starting to experience real problems. He is saying that when she is with him she is 'unmanageable' and plays him up all the time to the point that he wants me and my hubby to collect her early.
Not a problem you might think but he is now saying that this behaviour isn't normal and that she shouldn't be this naughty. He also says she lies constantly to him. The thing is she is nothing like that with me. She is sweet and well behaved (with the odd moment of course but nothing out of the ordinary) her school have also commented on how well behaved and friendly she is so it seems she only causes trouble when she is with him and his family. He wants to take her to a psychologist to 'get this sorted', I think thats a terrible idea!
I've asked him why she is playing up and what he is doing to discipline her but he gets defensive and I think he is just not being consistent, or giving in to her tantrums far to easily, which will just make her worse. He thinks he is the perfect parent but when we were together he was clueless!
Other that talking to him about it and trying to help him out with his parenting skills, what can I do? I don't want him taking her to a psychologist because I think it will then be giving her bad behaviour with him attention which will only make her worse! Can he even do that without my agreement? I have a residence order and we both have parental responsibility.