3.5 years old and behaviour

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I am hoping you will tell me this is general boy behaviour at aged 3.5 but he doesn't listen and doesn't seem to do as he is told. Nothing major. Generally he's good but things like yesterday he wanted to get the arts and crafts out. I said once I had been to the loo. By the time I came out the stuff was everywhere.

Again, he wanted something from the fridge. Told him to wait while I wrote an address on a christmas card. He went through and opened the fridge. OJ all over the floor.

Little things when we ask him to wait or not to do something until we are ready he takes himself off to do it. Not listening. How do we deal with this?

Thanks.

He sounds like he needs a consequence of not listening. So " Great idea xx please wait a moment and we can start that together, but if you dont wait for me then we wont do it" explain the consequence and carry through with the consequence if he fails to wait. remember small ones cant wait long patience is a difficult thing to master.

Equally he is wanting to be independant so choose your battles and for some things you consider possible for him to independantly attempt to start then encourage him to start that and you will join him in a moment or give him a easier task related to what he wants to do.

Good luck

Thank you.

i posted a thread about this yesterday. my 3.8yr old is like a different child, it started really suddenly a few weeks ago. he keeps having melt downs where he just doesn't listen, then something goes wrong and he ends up in tears because i have to deal with his behaviour.

i just keep telling him 'please just wait a minute and listen to me, i am trying to help you!' it's like having a baby again, i have to keep an eye on him all the time again to stop him getting up to mischief. he's spending a lot of time on his bed/step thinking about what he just did!

My DD1 3.5 has become little devil lately too. Its her attitude thats got me.
Always answering back and arguing about everything.
If I say she has to wait for something then its major strop on the floor or whining like mad. Its driving me crazy!

ah yes, the whining. Drives me nuts.

have you had his hearing tested?