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Awful behaviour tonight in 5 yr old dd. How long do I keep this up for?

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TaraQ · 21/12/2011 19:34

My usually lovely 5 yr old dd behaved awfully tonight whilst at a friends house - all kicked off when one of her brothers wouldnt let her have the toy he was playing with. She then pushed him and hit him. When i told her to sit outside the room and started counting to 5 she hit me. Then she carried on being extremely rude to me and our host whilst I got us ready to leave - rude noises, statements etc. I am FURIOUS. All her presents have been taken away from under the tree and she was sent straight to her room when we got home. She has put herself to bed - no bath or even teeth cleaning. Have told her that I want nothing to do with her - am disgusted in behaviour. Have told her stocking has been put away since santa will not be coming. Now that all is quiet in my household and I am sat with a large glass of wine I am now wondering how long to keep this up for. Do I leave her at home when I meet a friend in the morning with kids? Do I deny her all treats for next couple of days. Am SOOOO angry at her behaviour. Unlike her but I cannot let her get away with it. Am extremely embaressed about it all when other children were impecably behaved.

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mrswoodentop · 21/12/2011 19:40

And breathe....Wine

She is 5 ,its the week before Christmas and she is probably tired and overwrought and over excited,you say it is out of character so to be honest i would start tomorrow afresh and not mention it again.

Yes her behaviour was awful but she has been punished by going to bed early,she does not need to be punished over and over again,that smacks of vindictiveness.To be honest it sounds a little over the top,taking away her presents and removing her stocking because she had a tantrum Sadit almost sounds as if you are seeking revenge for her embarrassing you.I would have stuck with sending her to bed early,she probably thinks Christmas has been cancelled.

mrspepperpotty · 21/12/2011 20:31

Sorry but I agree you have over reacted about this. Of course she needs to realise that this behaviour is not acceptable, but you have punished her by sending her to bed early and I think that is enough - plus maybe a chat tomorrow to remind her that she is not to behave like that again. If this was part of a pattern of behaviour that might be different, but as this was out of character I think you will probably find that it doesn't happen again. You aren't really going to take away her presents and stocking for this one aberration are you?

fuzzypeach1750 · 21/12/2011 20:35

they can be so embarrassing can't they?! my middle DC did this to me on saturday. begged and nagged to join a gymnastics class, he went once all was fine so i coughed up the £60 and took him for his next class. he spent the whole hour screaming at me, crying hysterically that he didn't want to be there. i was so embarrassed that he was punished for the remainder of the day. when he went to bed and i sat down with a G & T i realised i was cross for me and that i hadn't taken his feelings into account. long and short is that she is 5 and its Christmas and is over excited. just let it go.

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TaraQ · 21/12/2011 20:49

There are many sensible words being said. Just cannot believe just how badly she behaved - so rude and naughty. It is not the first time that she has done this at this particulat friends house - I think that is what made things worse. Am still fuming - even after 2 big glasses of wine!

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Winkly · 21/12/2011 21:43

Agree with the above. Also please, as angry as you get, try to not say that you want nothing to do with her - it won't help, she may feel hurt and unloved on top of being tired, over excited etc.

eandemum · 21/12/2011 21:44

Do Portable Santa!

hellymelly · 21/12/2011 21:52

My dd was the naughtiest she has ever been at a Carol service just after her fifth birthday party.I had to literally haul her out kicking and screaming (during the loudest past of a carol,I timed it..). I was so angry,I shouted at her all the way home,but in hindsight she was overtired,overwrought as her party had not gone as expected (best friends all ill etc) and it was the week before Christmas. I agree with all advice given,and will also remember it myself,next time my younger one,now four,has a meltdown.

skybluepearl · 22/12/2011 23:51

Make her earn them back. One per day of good behaviour. she may get some gifts well into 2012 but who cares.

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