ds2 is doing my head in

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ds2 has been a right horror tonight and last night. Have tried my best to help him make something tonight and he has continued to be really cheeky despite warnings that he'll go to bed.
so, he's been sent up to bed since 5:30 , he's just shouted ' mum, i'm scared of asking but if i can't come back down i'll be naughty all week'
he is now howling
feel really
i had planned some quality time.

Oh I sympathise....it's so horrible when you have planned to be really nice to them and the little blighters scupper it by behaving badly. I think this is when lots of people weaken and let the discipline slide...well done for not doing that! How old is he?

hey festive

you and me both tonight .. although DS not in bed I was especially cross with him

tomorrow will be a better day

my ds has just woken with a pain in his leg and when I tried to give him calpol he had the biggest screaming fit he has ever had in his life and told me he hated me!I have just left him sobbing as every time I go in the room he screams even louder
He is 4. It is the first time he has said this to me

'Quality time' nearly always ends in tears IMO. High expectations meets 4 year old = disaster.
I have been there!

Too true Aloha.

Oh you have really depressed me! - my DS1 is 2.6 and DS2 is 1 - I thought it was all going to get easier!!!!

my ds is 6
after loads of crying i went up there to say goodnight (when it got to his usual bedtime) after he'd been up there for about 2 hours !

I'm not sure if he was going for the sympathy vote or what but he said something odd like ' i wish i had a better life '
believe me i do everything i can to make life great!

when i asked what he meant he said that he hasn't any friends at school. The twins he usually plays with (imo) are a bad choice of friends as they are almost a year older and much more streetwise and tend to playfully wind him up, but far too much.

He said they have been saying that he can't play because you have to be seven or it's only a game for 4 people etc etc

I did tell him to try and join in with some other boys but other than that i didn't know what to say. I feel really bad for him now and i'm tempted to try and sneak a peek into the playground!

what would you do?

I think I'd probably talk to his teacher and ask her who he plays with then arrange some playdates outside school so that he can get to know people better on his own territory

I also think that children know how to manipulate beautifully and it might just be something he latched onto to make you feel particularly bad

festiveface I had this with my 4 year old who started in reception in September. He said that nobody would play with him etc. However it wasn't true. His teacher told me this at parent's evening!
It did get him stacks of attention and sympathy though!

In my experience a tired child will say sad things at bedtime and then forget all about them by the morning, while his parents continue to sweat over what they were told. l Maybe you could leave it a while, ask him about it in a few days and see if it is a real issue or if he was just feeling low or tired (which would not be your fault just something that happens to us all, kids included).