3 month old won't let Daddy put her to bed

[BelleStar]

Since she was about 4 weeks old my DH has given our DD a bottle and then put her to bed. She is bf the rest of the time but formula in this bottle. In the last couple of weeks she has started getting really upset after the feed and won't stop crying. It's not wind or hunger. She stops crying immediately if I take over, which I try not to do but if she's becoming distressed then I will. She's fine with her Daddy the rest of the time. Does anyone have any tips for helping with this? We're thinking that he should keep doing it and hopefully this is a passing phase (and I'll be available if I'm needed to settle her).

She has also started to get upset when held by other people, which I'm hoping will pass reassurance please! I guess she's just figured out who Mummy is and will get used to the fact that other people exist too at some point.

Normal. Of course she prefers you, you provide the tastier milk
It's difficult because a) you need a break and b) it makes her dad feel crap when she reacts like that. We persevered when both dcs went through this stage and by 6 months it almost never happened but to be honest even now at 5 and 3 if they are tired or sad daddy just won't do.

I think you've got the right idea, perseverance is the key :) the same with other people holding her, I'd try to get as many people as possible to hold her so she doesn't get too funny about it

I'd leave it for now - she has a natural preference for her main carer, it's not personal. She's tiny! There's no need to push it unless you have to - it'll change as she gets older.

Maybe she's just checking you aren't far away? Like a form of separation anxiety? Although I thought that started happening when they were slightly older But I agree, keep persevering, this too shall pass.

Mine have both gone through funny stages at times, thankfully they do not last long when you're consistent

We'll definitely keep going with it. Tonight we sort of did the whole thing together and it helped a bit. And I'm hoping that over Christmas she'll got used to being around everyone else a bit more and that might help with her developing clingyness - but also being careful as I don't want to make it worse by pushing it too much! Thanks for your replies!x

My ds always has to be put to bed by moi.. He's 3 next week! At 3 months he was glued to my boob.

Our DD did this at 4 months. DH was quite upset about it but we just kept trying every so often. Took months but eventually wasn't an issue, was hard work for me as DD wasn't easy to settle to sleep.
She's 2.5 now, still a mummy's girl but adores her daddy too. We now alternate bed time and she hoots with laughter on daddy's night.

Good luck.

Have you tried expressed breast milk in the bottle instead of formulae just to see if she has the same reaction?!