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Dry at night - not quite there

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Christmascheerinateacup · 13/12/2011 06:04

DS is almost 3. Apart from the occasional accident he is dry all day. About 3 weeks ago he said he didn't want to wear a nappy at night. So we took his lead. Unfortunately despite rewarding dry nights, going on and on about waking us if he needs the loo, reducing evening drinks etc, we have an average of 1 in 3 dry nights.
I hoped you might give some sage advice on how to improve the hit rate. I would prefer not to go back to nappies but not sure if it can be avoided. Maybe he's just not quite ready?

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Fisharefriendsnotmincepies · 13/12/2011 06:10

Every night we lift dd for a wee when we go to bed. Dh will just pick her up and put her on the loo. She will wee, normally still asleep and straight back to bed. Works line a charm

StrandedUnderTheMisltoe · 13/12/2011 10:00

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BaroqueAroundTheClock · 13/12/2011 10:05

rewarding dry nights it fairly pointless. It's hormone based, if they're not ready you really can't force it, and it's perfectly 'normal' to still be wet at night up to 7yrs old.

Stranded is correct - lifting is not advised because the body isn't actually learning 'when' it needs a wee (or to hold)

I certainly wouldn't bother with an alarm at this age.

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Christmascheerinateacup · 13/12/2011 16:13

Thanks for your advice so far -,much as I thought really.
So the big question is, should we persevere, or just revert to nappies and try again in a few months?

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madwomanintheattic · 13/12/2011 16:46

starshaker · 13/12/2011 17:18

my dd is 6 and we have recently went back to "special pants" at night time cos i couldnt keep up with the washing. She doesnt mind and she still gets up to go to the bathroom but on the nights she doesnt manage then at least im not having to wash sheets all the time.

Fisharefriendsnotmincepies · 13/12/2011 19:34

Wow you learn something new everyday, I had NO idea..

Should we just let her wet then? Or get those jimjam things?

madwomanintheattic · 13/12/2011 19:37

up to you.
until she starts producing the hormone it's immaterial but the lifting might reinforce a pattern that you don't want to encourage.

Blackpuddingbertha · 13/12/2011 20:40

Fish - we lifted DD for a few months when she started insisting on not wearing a nappy at night and was only 50% reliable. We gradually stopped doing it as sometimes we'd forget (apart from when staying overnight elsewhere) and she was fine. It worked for us and didn't reinforce the weeing when sleeping thing although I can understand how it could do so.

She's now just turned 4, we haven't lifted her for over 6 months and she's very reliable. We decided that lifting was better than trying to get her to wear a nappy when she didn't want to (as she's quite stubborn about some things and I couldn't bear the tantrums!) - worked for us

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