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whining and whinging - at 9 months old!

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mads1 · 09/01/2006 14:15

Can anyone help please!!! My dd has gone from being a complete, contented angel who never moaned all day, to a little whinge bucket! Actually, in all fairness to her, most the time I think it's been because of her teething and like dh pointed out - it is NOT all the time. BUT the few times she does do it in a day can really grate on me. I don't want to have to keep doing a song and dance every time she whines as i feel that she will start to realize that this behaviour gets a reaction. I praise and talk to her constantly (maybe that's the problem! She's telling me to shut up!! ) so it can't be for attention?
Does any one else have this prob and has any one any advice on how to get through this. Thank you

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colditz · 09/01/2006 14:33

Is she bored? perhaps a change of scenery would brighten her up a bit? I think when they are teething they can be very irritable, as it really does hurt them, and makes everything seem that much worse to them. Do you give her any painkillers in the day?

My ds was terribly whiney when he was teething, but a really chucklebum when not!

Elibean · 09/01/2006 16:30

Does sound like the teething phase...poor dd, and poor you! We did use painkillers a fair bit during the worst of the whinge/cry phases, in the end. At first I was afraid to, because it felt so hit and miss - since we couldn't be 100% sure if that was what it was - but soon realized that if dd was much happier half an hour post nurofen, it probably was!
I don't think you can do much other than live through it, take little comfort breaks for yourself when it gets overwhelming (if you can) and keep reminding yourself it will pass, and dd will feel much better when she has her gnashers in place...

starlover · 09/01/2006 16:36

i agree with colditz re boredom. Ds was very like that before he started moving about.. they do get frustrated as they get older because they want to do things and can't!

starlover · 09/01/2006 16:36

btw i kept thinking it was teething, and dosing him up with calpol and teething gel. it wa months before his teeth finally came through!

Kelly1978 · 09/01/2006 16:39

prob boredom. I have twin 9 month olds, and I really think this is the worst phase. Toys are momentarily inspected, then thrown aside with howls of rage. The only thing I find that helps is to take them out as much as poss. Strangely, toys at M&T roups seem to have much more lasting appeal, esp when snatched off a 6mnth old that hasn't yet mastered crawling. IME it gets better once they start walking, until then you jsut have to grin and bear it.

Elibean · 09/01/2006 16:49

Ah, yes, on second thoughts it could well be boredom/frustration. With mine, it wasn't - she didn't walk until 16 months, so that stage came later: but its much the same as teething in terms of grumpiness! The day she walked, she was a changed girl.

Elibean · 09/01/2006 16:50

Though teeth can hurt for ages before they come through, too.

Babyblue2 · 10/01/2006 07:30

I've got a 9 month dd. I'd agree with everything said. Mine went through major whingey-ness for 2 months from 6 months. It felt like hell. This coincided with crawling so she was v tired and cranky. Didn't sleep much through the day either which didn't help. Now she's got 8 teeth and has calmed down somewhat tho is always cranky between 4.30 and 5.00 pm - tea anticipation's what i call it. If it occurs, i'd just try and get out of the house for while and if you think its her teeth give her some medicine before you go out.

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mads1 · 10/01/2006 09:58

Many thanks!! Sorry I haven't been back to reply earlier.

I think the w and w is probably down to both problems - frustration and teething. I have been giving her calpol, gels and powders for the last 2 months in anticipation of teeth!! they finally came last week - 2 within days of each other. She has also in the same week finally mastered crawling and is now constantly trying to pull herself up to stand.

She is very quiet when we go out and so we try to go for a walk everyday or a little outing. I feel bad sometimes that when we do go out, then is confined to the pushchair, trollies etc. I like her to burn off as much energy as possible!!! But i guess it's all about balance.

Surprisingly she has actually been in a fantastic giggling mood today!!! - yet again proving her mum wrong!

Thanks again. Hope you all have a good day

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