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Daughter hates my Dad....help!

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Toni27 · 10/12/2011 09:29

Hi my daughter who is 3y 11m old screams at my Dad to get out of our house whenever he comes round, like as soon as she sees him through the window she starts getting really angry and screaming that he cant come in, this has been going on since just after her 2nd birthday. There doesnt seem to be any reason for it, and shes fine with my Dad at his house, its just in our own home.
I was telling her off for her behaviour, it is upsetting for my Dad and embarrasing for me as I think people may think my Dad has done something bad to my daughter, when Im absolutely certain he hasnt. But my Dad has requested that I no longer say anything about it as he thinks that she associates him coming in the house with her being told off.
My daughter does have quite obssesive tendencies as in she always has to go up or downstairs "first" or goes completely hysterical and also has to open our garden gate "first". She also has to let people out the door when they are leaving our house or gets exceptionally upset. I do wonder if my Dad has broken her "rules" too many times as he does tend to forget the way she likes things to happen!
My daughter is very bright and loving and she always wants to give Dad a cuddle before he goes home or again gets very upset. She loves going round to his house to play and is always more than happy to go round there, although she can sometimes scream and shout at him there too, normally "NO GRANDAD, YOU CANT PLAY/ HELP!" but then other times she is sweet as anything and we get none of this behaviour.
Please has anyone else experienced this behaviour and does anyone have any advice? Thanks xx

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mumeeee · 10/12/2011 10:05

I would do as your Dad suggested. Don't tell her off bur just ignore this behaviour. I don't mean give into her. Just let your Dad in and carry on talking to him when your DD screams at him to get out. Just say Grandad has come to see us and if you want to come and play/talk to him then you can. Also let her know it's fine if she doesn't want to do that. but Grandad is going to stay untilIt's time fog him to go.

Toni27 · 10/12/2011 12:49

Thanks mumeeee xx

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