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Help, Advice needed!!!!

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kalithies · 09/12/2011 10:55

I was wondering if anyone had any advice, unfortunately my Mum who helped me on these things passed away last year.
Anyway I have two boys one aged 6 (7 in january) and my youngest 18months.My oldest Sean is a very intelligent and polite child, he is in all the top sets at school and everyone thinks he is a lovely boy and to be honest he is, he is never really naughty but the real problem is that he will not listen to me and do as he is told. When I ask him to do something he ignores me and I have to ask him over and over again trying to threaten him with all sorts of punishments, I then start to lose my patience and get mad he then flies into a frenzy screaming and shouting. Eventually we both calm down and things get done.My husband says it because we are both looking for a fight but to be honest I'm not especially first thing in a morning when I have to get two kids ready and myself and get everyone to schoiol, nursery and me to work. My way of dealing with things is obviously not working and is making him even more defiant. I know that they take a lot out on their mums as they know they can get away with more but this is getting to be hard work.Most of my friends who have kids the same age say that there boys are like teenagers as well but if hes like this now what is he gonna be like when he is 15.Any tips greatly received
thanks

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jammydodger1 · 09/12/2011 18:20

i have two dd and my eldest was about 6 when my mum died, she was extremely close to my mum and it effected her greatly, you are in the very early stages of grieving for you mum and so is he proberably, there is a book i was given called always and forever which really explains death to small people that helped my dd no end, its hard to be patient when life has to go on but it does get easier with time.

kalithies · 10/12/2011 21:50

thanks for the advice I will keep my eye out for that book, he was very close to my mum and spent lots of time with her.Maybe since then I have spoilt him a little too much and let him get away with a bit more than before.I also sometimes have the whole working full time and not spending enough time with the children guilt feeling which I'm sure doesn't help.I know he will grow up a well behaved little boy but as you say I'm sure it just takes time and patience
thanks
Sarah

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