Does my 4yr old ds have a problem?

[hillyhilly]

My ds is 4.3, he has always been a livewire, but a chat at his nursery today has got me wondering and a but worried whether he is just a typical boy or whether there's more to it.
His birthday is early September so he is the oldest at nursery and he is also a very big lad so he is strong and can hurt others without necessarily meaning to.
He is not aggressive and the best description generally is of an over exuberant puppy. Today, the nursery manager ( who loves him and who I respect enormously) has said he's had " a bit of a day" with snatching, tugging and lots of very physical expression. They do get lots of outdoor play, rain or shine and there is lots of different things for them to do. She pretty much said " you should watch for the over physical play/ snatching" and also "I'm not trying to worry you" (which of course is exactly what she has done!)
But for a week he would have been at school now and he is a bright lad, he is picking up letters and adding up on his fingers - is this the problem? Is it simply that he is a little further advanced?
Is this normal? He has calmed down a lot since about 18 months when he really was hard work but I am but concerned in case she thinks he might have ADHD or something else like it?
Tia

Sorry for poor spellings, typed on the iPad and I could see the beginning of it when I got to the end!

Firstly, listen to her words of 'try not to worry'. If she had been seriously concerned at this point she would have been honest and flagged it up to you.

I wouldn't necessarily put it down to him being more 'advanced' either. I'd talk to him about being a little bigger and about trying not to get his limbs in other people's spaces. It can help to explain that it is like everyone has a bubble around them and that we try not to burst it. I would also discuss snatching and taking turns, explain that if he feels hard done by if another child isn't sharing to tell an adult rather than to take matters into his own hands. Gentle talks at home to back up messages being given at nursery can really help.

Children go through phases and have good and bad weeks. At this point I'd just acknowledge that he is boisterous and work on the snatching etc.

it sounds well within the normal range to me. As you say, if he's one of the biggest in the class, it's likely he doesn't quite know his own strength at times. My two year old is quite 'exuberant' at the moment and I think it's partly because its hard to get enough time outside to burn off his energy in this weather.

Can they get him outside even more? I think boys in particular at this age just need lots of time outside and a lot of them are pretty physical, that's their reason d'etre.... Sounds normal- sounds like he feels a bit hemmed in in environment? Can they get some more challenging activites perhaps for the older ones- is he stimulated enough in other ways?