17 month old worries

[MudAndGlitter]

Im being paranoid I think but I'm going to blame the damn baby centre development emails I get! DD is 17months and can't do half the things DS could at that age.
She has about 2 or 3 words that she uses or at least they sound like words
She doesn't point at anything.
She has huge meltdown type tantrums over things like peppa pig finishing and going to adverts.
Every toy still goes in her mouth. She doesn't play.
The only toy she has any real interest in is her bear she's had from birth. We can't go anywhere without it, of she can't see it she's constantly crying until its located.

I'm being silly aren't I?!

no u are not being stupid! dont worry urself too much i'm sure your child will conform just like the rest when she is ready,remember children develop at different rates.I think we can sometimes listen too much to what others say;and has for her needing her bear constantly if its any comfort to know my sons both had comfort blankets my little boy still has his and can't sleep without it try not to worry :)

If she does not point, how does she get and share attention with you ? Does she generally understand and follow age appropriate instructions ?When you say she does not play, does she just say she does not want to play with that toy or does she not seem to know what to do with the toy? Sorry if this all sounds negative and quite probably things are fine but these are the sorts of issues you need to look at

With toys she eats them or hits them on something. Once she made a sylvanian family walk across the living room but that was it. Although having thought about it she will put her bear in dolly buggy and push it about.
She doesn't do anything really to get my attention. She will cry or scream but she doesn't show me anything

She understands things like 'get me your shoes/coat/bear etc and will sometimes sign back things I've said e.g bedtime

with pointing, even if they wave an arm at something or a whole hand that is still pointing when they're learning communication, apparently, easy to miss when you're looking for the actual fingerpoint action! The curve of 'normal' development is massive I'm realising myself :) My 25m old still won't sleep without one specific cuddle-toy, its become a very important person in our house...

Everything you say sounds positive so I think you just need to keep an eye on things. There is a simple screening test called CHAT that helps parents/professionals to see if the child is on track or not (with basic shared attention and basic communication). It is not diagnostic but is a great starting point to see what the key developmental issues are.