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Call from school about 8 y/o DS being rude

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Jnice · 02/12/2011 18:04

We have 3 boys age 8 (almost 9), 4.5 and a 6 week old baby. Our oldest has always been considerate of other people, but lately he has been flying off the handle at us when we ask him to do things, or question him about something.

Home life has been pretty stressful, I think I too have been flying off the handle sometimes.

Today I got a call from the teaching assistant from his class. She is there to support a special needs kid, but also helps out with the rest of the class. She said that DS has been rude to her on a few occasions, and described the same behaviour we've seen at home. For example - when asked not to do something or corrected on his behaviour he shouts 'stop!' as if he's been deeply hurt by what has been said and is emotionally tormented.

I am at a loss with this, I had assumed his behaviour at home was a minor issue that would blow over, I have not spent enough time trying to get to the bottom of it, and now it seems this is a bigger issue than I thought.

He is completing school work fine, I don't see any academic issue at all.

I wonder if this is partly a developmental thing related to his age, obviously having a new baby is stressing us all out a bit too. Foes anyone have any advice?

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coolragdoll · 02/12/2011 19:20

As a teacher and mum, I know that some youngsters don't like being 'helped' by staff that are perceived as being only there to help special needs children so he may be overreacting because of that. I'm sure a slightly hectic homelife may have put him on edge too. Maybe a heart to heart with him- some days out just the two of you- if you can manage it!- to show he's not just third in line for your attention. He sounds like a good kid and you are a caring mum so I'm sure you'll all come through fine

Jnice · 02/12/2011 20:02

Thanks! It's reassuring to hear your opinion as both teacher and mom - one on one time is definitely lacking and needed. I will try to approach a discussion as being concerned for his well being rather than being angry about getting a call (which was my first reaction).

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