14 months appropriate discipline/discouraging unwanted behavior

[sedgieloo]

I've done some board searches and lots about distracting, but its not going far enough.

DD is I think the outgoing sort, I think pretty bright, very vocal (loud actually), impatient and willful. That sounds like she's a nightmare, and she's pretty delightful most the time, but increasingly I'm aware she's knows what she wants when she wants it and she's very quickly displeased - picture this - she clenches her fists and either screams or growls in my face her whole body shaking in anger! I fear if I don't discourage this more she might become a right brat! This is happening more and more! What are you all doing to discourage unwanted behavior this or any other?

i need ideas please .... First time mum here!

Firm, consistent but very gentle. Too little for anything different.
That's an age when distraction still works wonders.

Hmm sounds a little like my DS (15 months)! He gets rather upset when he can't get his way and is also very determined and loud. The distraction thing seems to work well for us - He seems to get over his crying pretty quickly. I am trying to stay calm, and if I say no, do it firmly and consistently. So would agree with lljkk. But afraid I'm also a first time mom so hopefully this will work in the long run too!

We get the whole body shakes too. Before they can talk its hard for them to communicate what they want and they can get overwhelmed with frustration. Hunger or tiredness will make things 100 times worse.

Ds seems to really really want to be involved in whatever we are doing, so the other day he was shreiking while I was peeling potatoes so I put the pot on the floor for a minute so he could poke them for a bit. No harm to the potatoes and he was happy while I got on with the veg.

Also I find it helps to give him a burst of attention before I need to do something and saying, "After this book mummy is going to get the washing" so they have some idea of what is going on.

And I have some forbidden items I don't really want him to play with but are not actually dangerous. So sometimes he gets to root through my make up box while I go to the loo without a meltdown occuring...