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Baby seems to hate being at home

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diyqueen · 02/12/2011 12:06

My 8.5mo dd is really delightful when we are out at baby groups or out at the shops, for walks etc. (strangers even comment on what a happy baby I have). However, at home lately she just whinges continuously - she will stop temporarily when I play with her, but soon seems to get bored even then, and is not happy to sit and watch me do housework etc. (I've tried giving her bits of what I'm doing to play with, as well as her own toys).

I think she is getting frustrated at not being able to move - she is trying to crawl from sitting but gets a leg stuck under her then topples over and cries. I'm just finding it so hard that every time I put her on the floor at home, she cries/whinges (she is happy to sit and play at baby groups, but I think she enjoys watching the other children). She's always been a very wakeful and demanding type, but did go through a phase of quite enjoying sitting on the floor playing with things. Anyone else had similar? I feel like she just hates our house/my company at the moment.

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Chaotica · 02/12/2011 17:09

DS was like this IIRC. He was lovely out and a nightmare screamer at home. It began when he first noticed things he couldn't reach (4m) and carried on until he could walk (15m). I feel for you. Leave the housework and go out a lot.

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diyqueen · 03/12/2011 07:58

Glad it's not just me... it is hard, shuddering at the thought of a possible 8 months of it...! But yes, at least we can go out.

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fraktious · 03/12/2011 08:00

I hear you. I have resorted to tv on occasion.

Come on over to the high need baby thread - there are a few of us in the same boat.

LukeyLou · 03/12/2011 18:38

My DS was just like this as a baby. He was a very high need baby, but nobody would believe me because he was such a dream whenever we were out anywhere!

We turned a corner at 9 months when he started crawling. Once he could move around and able to explore he stopped wanting to be held all the time. People constantly used to tell me life would get harder once he could crawl - how wrong they were

It's got easier and easier as he's been able to do more, but at 2.8yrs he still wants to be out and about an awful lot. He struggles with a whole morning or afternoon at home, so we do lots and lots of walks (no such thing as a duvet day in this house...). But at least he doesn't hate being ay home any more.

I agree with Chaotica - leave the housework and go out a lot. And hang in there...

madmomma · 04/12/2011 20:04

Yep. My son was like this - all changed when he started crawling and walking. It took him ages to get round to it though. It's frustration and boredom. Just take her out as much as you can. I used to go to every playgroup going, the library, walks, friends' houses, swimming - anything to not listen to miserable whining! It does pass, and it certainly doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong. Hang in there.

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diyqueen · 04/12/2011 21:55

Thanks, that's so reassuring to hear that others' dcs have been the same and that it has got better once they're on the move. We do go out a lot at the moment, so will just keep at it. 'Miserable whining' - yep, that describes it exactly! Fraktious I have started reading the high need baby thread with interest and will come join

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An0therName · 04/12/2011 22:17

Yep my DS was very like this -much better when he could walk - but until he was at preschool had be out and about ALOT

tiredfeet · 04/12/2011 22:26

Ds was/ is definitely like this! It is hard work but he was definitely happier once he could crawl then when he could work. We go out to the shops/park/ river several times if needed, even a little trip out helps. His trike has been a big success since he was about ten months as he never tires of it. Although now he likes to get off and walk, normally in the wrong direction...

tiredfeet · 04/12/2011 22:27

Walk, not work! Oops

tiredfeet · 04/12/2011 22:27

Walk, not work! Oops

newbielisa · 04/12/2011 22:33

It's no consolation when every hair is standing upright on your body from THAT whingeing sound but my Mum always says better to have a street angel and a house devil than the other way round.

newbielisa · 04/12/2011 22:36

ps My DD definitely loves me but frequently gets bored with me (charming) hence my never quite there house and always there attendance at each possible playgroup/activity.

cookingfat · 05/12/2011 18:54

I could have written the OP!

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