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Lying 5yr old DD

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sambageeni · 01/12/2011 20:54

Help!
My dd1 was sent home from school today as she said she was sick in the toilets. I wasn't convinced she was telling the truth when I picked her up I just had a feeling and some of the things she was saying didn't ring true. Anyway, eventually she admitted she wasn't sick and wanted to come home to see me and because she was tired. I'm not sending her to school tomorrow as our school has a 48hr rule regarding sickness and I don't want to admit she lied incase she gets branded a lier. As I'm not sending her though she does miss out on her turn for show and tell and a birthday party so I think she regrets doing what she did. She has apologised sincerely without being prompted and I've explained lying is not good at all. But I've noticed that she does fib regularly. I'm horrified she told a lie this size. Help! Any suggestions?

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Angelswings · 01/12/2011 20:59

Normal behaviour but hard work!

How about having a set out punishment for lies, but be more gentle on the wrong she did that she lies to over up

This gives the message that lies are the worse

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sambageeni · 01/12/2011 21:01

Yep! Sounds like a plan. Thank you!

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Bohica · 01/12/2011 21:10

I wouldn't cover her lie up, I would send her in and have a quiet word with the teacher to tell them what has happened. It's acceptable that a 5 year old would want to come home when tired to see her mum but it's not acceptable to lie about being ill.

If you keep her home and then let the school think she was sick she will have to lie again if asked if she is feeling better etc

And explaining to your DD that you will be telling her teacher will probably shame her enough not to do it again, I would say that your DD should tell her teacher but I know my DD wouldn't and it would cause big tears and tantrums going into school so I would be more inclined to say "you are not ill and you will be attending school tomorrow, I will also be telling your teacher that you told a lie and she/he will probably be as dissapointed with you as I am"

Wolfiefan · 01/12/2011 21:13

I am an evil parent and would send her in. However..... Did she lie to avoid someone or something at school. I'm tired does not sound very convincing to me. Chat to teacher?

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