Party invites

[JustinCaseyHowles]

Sounds silly but my 4 year old has just started in Reception and has got invites to two birthday parties on the same day. I know this can be a bone of contention so advice would be welcome please!
The first one came very early and is from a girl who is lovely, the second came late but is a dance party so my daughter wants to go to that one!
What's the etiquette? Should I accept the first one as it's the polite thing to do? Don't think we can go to both!

Yes, definitely accept the one that arrived first. It will probably be common knowledge which was sent out first. If you choose the second one it will look like a snub to the first, whereas if you choose the first one it's clear you've just gone by the order you received them.

Yes you're right of course! Thank you - such a shame not everyone invited but I suppose it's not possible! Worrying about daughter's 5th already now!

Are they both from children at the same school? If so, when they realise there is a clash (presuming all children are invited to both) they may change times to allow both parties to take place. This happened at dd2's school and one of the mums managed to put her party back a few hours.

If not, is there one child your dd is closer to?

Thanks for the message - I was thinking that but talked to another mum and not everyone's invited to either party! Kids are in same class!
I'm fretting too much I think but first party girl plays nicely with my daughter but she has some issues with the second so, bizarrely, I'd quite like her to go to second party too to see if that helps! A tangled web!
Also feels like I have to keep it secret she's had two invites to avoid offending anyone - paranoid!