Am a bit emotional right now so sorry if this isn't the most coherent post. And long too, sorry.
3 days a week DD goes to nursery a.m. and p.m. with Grandma. Age 1-2 she was with GM all day 2-3 days a week while I'm at work, started nursery at 2, settled in, happy enough there.
Mum (GM) just rang me and said "there's something wrong with DD" I said please can we not have a conversation like this on the phone as I'll get upset and angry - better face to face, I tend to lose it on the phone if I disagree with my mum.
Which I did. The "wrong" is this past week DD has been "very unhappy" says GM (not with me) and has been pinching and trying to hit GM.
I said, there's nothing wrong with DD, she is normal 2 year old, it's a phase, pointed out happiness of previous week.
GM said "thought you might be interested in your daughter being unhappy and want to do something about it" cue big shouting from me.
So, leaving aside the emotional horrors of my relationship with my mother, is there something wrong with DD, I wonder? She could have been extra tired this week, GM had already told me she woke up from a nap into the worst tantrun she's ever had, and she doesn't have many, which I think was her needing more sleep. Today she woke after an hour then slept on my lap for over another hour.
Or could it be something else? Does she suddenly hate GM (one of the things GM said), or maybe she wants me more? I said it's a phase, maybe it's a wanting mummy phase. Any thoughts gratefully received.
I am incredibly grateful to my mum for offering to do childcare, but I don't know how to handle this situation, which, if it was happening at nursery, would be made easier by the fact that there they are professionals and have experience of many children, whereas my mum only ever had me, and says "you were such a sweet child at that age" and can't understand why DD is not identical.