My DS is obsessed with all things girlie!!!

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It all started about a year or so ago when he started playgroup, and at first I thought it was a phase but is it something to be concerned about?

He is just turning 4 and everyday I go to pick him up and he is in a dress and sometimes with head dresses on. He only plays with the girls as well. When he is at home he always wants to watch barbie and princess films and dances around like a ballerina with blankets etc, around him like dresses. He has grown up idolising his cousin as she was the only child around in his first 1 1/2.

We have never discouraged him acting like this because as I said, we thought it was a phase, but now my partner is finding it difficult to bond with him, and my DS sometimes refuses to cuddle with him and show him any affection.

Me and my DS have a very close relationship, and he is always saying he loves me, but never daddy unless i ask him if he does. Do I need to back off a little maybe and give them chance to bond more?

As he is starting school next year im worried about him making friends and fitting in, although he is a very confident person.

We have a 2y DS and he is the complete opposite and does not tollerate dresses!!

Just wondering if anyone has had the same experience?

Thanks!

I have a 6yr old DS who sounds exactly the same. He has always loved girls dressing up clothes and accessories. He has lots of friends at school (nearly all girls!) and seems confident and happy. The reaction of friends and family has got less tolerant as he has got older though. I did try taking girls dressing up away when friends were teasing him(not proud of this) but soon realised it was pointless - he can turn a football top into a mini-skirt

Why is your dp finding it hard to bond? Because of the dressing up, princess films? Lots of mums and dads have to put up with football or barbies or messy play or or video games or various things they don't enjoy in order to spend time with their children.

As you say you have another boy who is not interested in the same stuff so I doubt it is your fault. Only you know how much you do with him, so wether you need to back off is hard for anyone else to say. Unless you are actively discouraging your partner from being with your son, I think your partner to take action not you ie he needs to make more of an effort with him and then maybe your son will be more affectionate with him.

My DS was the same at 4. We just let him get on with it and he has grown out of it now (nearly 5). It is not a big deal.

I agree with Albrecht its more a case of your partner stepping up and being more accepting and interactive with your DS rather than you needing to step back.

It really isnt a big deal, more importantly you need to help your partner realise this and that even if he tried not to show his displeasure at your DS's affection for all thinks pink n sparkly that its likely your DS's can feel the undercurrent - hence the preference for you.

The Poundshop often has wonderful fairy wings in blue if that would make your dp feel better