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Advice/tips please, 7 month old daytime sleep problems

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Tinwe · 26/11/2011 09:20

Before I start, I know I am lucky, my DD is a smiley, happy, bright, inquisitive 7 month old and a star to look after with one exception... sleep problems in the daytime. She is so curious she will only sleep when we are at home, alone and I hold her in a certain position which she likes. Even when she is heavily asleep and wrapped up she wakes when I gently put her down and won't go back to sleep. This means me frozen in position for hours at a time. She goes down at night after her bedtime routine with no trouble with her dad and sleeps through.

This has been continuing for about 2 months now (since her dad returned to work after summer), before that we would put her down awake and she would sleep anywhere. Now she won't sleep in the car, in a swingy chair, in her cot, in her pram or for other people except her dad sometimes. If she misses her sleep she becomes grumpy and cries or grunts/moans constantly until she sleeps. She's lovely to cuddle so I don't mind this occasionally, but she sleeps for a couple of hours 2 or 3 times a day and it makes it very difficult to do anything in the house, including getting my own lunch or preparing a bottle.

I am 5 months pregnant and so will be going back to work in Jan for a couple of months before my next mat leave and am worried how her grandparents will cope if she won't sleep and how she'll cope "sharing me" with DC2 when she needs to sleep.

Recently DH and I tried putting her down in her cot after she fell asleep and then just comforting her there, not picking her up, when she woke over an hour period at the same time each day for 4 days but she just got more and more hysterical each day to the point of shaking and wailing which took 30mins of cuddles to settle.

I'm wondering if this is just a phase and I shouldn't worry, just wait it out? Should I try to introduce a comforter (she already has a dummy)? Should we be strict and have her cry it out? Any other tips/ideas?

PS.Thanks for persevering with this long post! :)

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Keeleyxx · 26/11/2011 18:58

Hi Tinwe,

My DD has just turned 1 and we had a similar problem she would only sleep led with/on you the second you tried to put her down PING!!! wide awake.

I found this didn't last long as her routine was changing all the time.
Once she was holding her bottler herself she would fall asleep drinking it, so now I actually put her back to bed with the bottle and she'll go off for 1.5 hours.
That's the only sleep she'll have in the day which suits us as then she goes straight off at bedtime.
There's always controlled crying we tried that at bedtime she soon gave in and went to bed.
You can hear in the grunts that they are tired just fighting it.
I wouldn't worry too much Smile
xx

Albrecht · 26/11/2011 21:23

I found ds naps improved massively when he could crawl as he was exhausted. Hopefully won't be long for you now.

Can you hold her in bed and then gently roll her off you once she's asleep, I found this works better than putting ds down - we have a double mattress on the floor so he doesn't have far to fall if he rambles about. This might help if you get to the point of trying to look after 2 babies who need you to get them to sleep. Ds went down to only one long sleep a day at 11 months which is more manageable.

Tinwe · 26/11/2011 22:12

Thanks keeleyxx for the glimmer of hope. If it is a phase, she's been in it a long time and so may hopefully be coming out of it soon! Her routine does change a lot too, though day to day to be honest, as depending whether we have to go out each day affects whether I can help her sleep. Maybe her Grandma will establish a better routine than me, especially as they think I'm too soft with her on this issue!
Thanks too Albrecht. She is sort of part crawling now but I doubt it will be long before she's up and about properly... Will try the matress idea in the meanwhile, think that could work well as she has happily slept being cuddled in our bed ocassionally in the past, just got to find somewhere to put a matress on the floor tho as I think she'd roll off our bed if I wasn't there when she woke.

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