Hitting 3 year old

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I am at my wits end with my son. He is 3 1/2 but we are still h aving problems with his hitting. He hits me and his dad. over anything that he doesnt like. ie if you try and explain anything to him, or you ask him to do something he doesnt want to, or he falls over. He is ok at nursery apparently, but even going out with his friends is too stressful as he ends up hitting them.

I have tried the naughty corner, ignoring, taking things away and he just doesnt learn. When i ask him why, he says he doesnt know.

I have tried going the positive route, and saying he will get treat if good, but he just forgets and his temper takes over.

Any help would be appreciated x

my dd use to do this and bite as well it was exhausting she is autistic. every time she hit or bit i lifted her up and put her in her room she would go in to melt down and i would have to hold the door shut, it took a while and i would often be i tears but eventually it sunk in.
they did the same at her school (in sensory room). i think it was the repeated punishment rather than a different one so she knew exactly what would happen if she did it. the first time i saw her thinking about it was amazing she raised her hand and then dropped it back down, i cried again then .
i would say consistency is the key. hope this helps.