Potty training a toddler with 'significant speech and language delay' help!

[MissPricklePants]

hi, dd is 2.6 and as the title says, she has a speech and language delay. I am in no rush to potty train her as I am certain she isn't ready but my ex has decided that dd is too old for nappies so he wants to potty train her (he has dd a max of 6 hours week, no overnight etc, that was his choice) I have explained that she does not seem ready but he has said he will 'force her' and I am worried it will make it harder for dd!so wwyd?i leave the potty out and she has nappy free time and i encourage her to sit on it but she hasnt used it and cries when i mention it. How do you start potty training a toddler with a speech and language delay?thanks if you made it to the end!

anybody?

Ds started telling me he wants a poo by pointing at his nappy and will sit on the potty for a poo. He can say say poo poo now but he started with just the pointing. If I ask him at any other time he won't do it and he hasn't asked to go for a wee yet. He is 2.9 and can say about 30 words.

Wow your ex sounds nice. Tell him you're her mother and her main carer and you will decide when she's ready.

I have NeedHelp, but he states he has p.r and can do what he wants! He is controlling and abusive to me so regularly flips and starts harassing me. I will keep repeating 'she isn't ready yet'

Surely he can't control if you make her use the potty in your house. If he wants to do it at his house for 6 hours a week then let him get on with it.