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Book recommendations please to help 7 YO DD make sense of her great-granda's death

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Pendulum · 22/11/2011 17:31

My granda died in August. DD was not especially close to him but has been quite affected. We have tears regularly and she seems particularly tortured by the idea that she didn't 'say goodbye' to him the last time she visited him.

I'm not quite sure how to approach this- she has a very vivid imagination so I don't want to go into too much detail, but she clearly has a need to discuss the topic. We don't have any faith to use to give her a narrative about death and what comes after.

She is a very keen reader and my natural inclination is to reach for a book that we could read together to help with this. Can anyone recommend a book on the topic of death that is quite matter of fact (too much sentiment will provoke more tears) but also comforting?

Any suggestions of how to help her with her guilt (about not saying goodbye) would also be v welcome.

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bebemoojem · 22/11/2011 18:26

:( hmmm the only book I can think of is Bridge to Terabitha ...but not sure if it's really age appropriate and it's a little teary eyed too

Hopefully someone comes along with a better suggestion soon

as for helping her say goodbye, maybe a message in a bottle or visiting the grave with some flowers and a letter of goodbye?

Very sorry for your loss. :(

Pendulum · 22/11/2011 20:02

Many thanks for your reply. I don't know that book but will investigate.

I think you're right that it would do her good to visit his grave. Unfortunately it's not in this country, which makes it more difficult: however, you've made me think, perhaps I should make it happen. (Unpredictable though: I always found graves terrifying as a kid).

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Clawdy · 22/11/2011 20:25

What about John Burningham's "Grandpa"? a picture book,but lots to discuss.

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