whingey clingy!

[Bea]

help! Got a 4 month old and ever since tiny i have always made a point of allowing her to be held by many differnt people and seen amny faces, recently she does the ole happy as larry and then bawls her eyes out! Especially when friends come to visit. Another thing is when 5pm hits she gets very grizzley! and becomes quite clingy whcih is frusrating as this is when dad comes home and takes over and i used to get a break! Up to 2 weeks ago she loved seeing different people laughed and was quite contenet being help by anyone!

Please tell me this will pass and is normal! as i'm terrified of having a touchy baby!

Bea, many babies (and adults!) are grumpy and grizzly in the evenings. I guess we're all getting tired by then.

As for your baby crying when she meets strangers, she is reaching the stage of developing Separation Anxiety. All it means is that she now knows that you are her Mummy and no one else will do! She recognises you as a very special person and feels safe with you. Don't worry, it's a normal phase and will pass eventually, sometimes within months, sometimes over a longer period of time.

Hi Bea, I also have a 4mth old baby and he went through a phase of which he only wanted his mummy and like you when daddy came in from work screamed. I was breastfeeding at the time and decided to give him 1 formula a day which his daddy gave him. This seem to do the trick as he was bonding with us both. Does your baby sleep in the day? I always make sure that my baby has a good sleep in the afternoon (2hrs) then I know he won't be grumpy for when daddy comes home. I'm sure it won't last for the long.

Thanks for all the words of encouragement, she's beginning to become a little more settled in the eving now!

I would love her dad to give her a bottle in the evening (reclaim my boobs!! - if only for 15 mins!) but were trying to get her on the bottle at the moment. Having a go with expressed milk once / twice a day. Sometimes she sucks and it's "wahey! 3 sucks she's cracked it" and then therr's point blank refusal!!! Don't want to make it a battle as we've tried this and it was pointless and upsetting!

any ideas and words of encouragement!!!

Bea

Bea - my baby girl was unbearably clingy and refused a bottle until she was 6 months old. I took the view that she would grow out of it, so I let her have me as much as she wanted and gave up trying the bottle. Then one day, just after she was 6 months old, we had guests staying and I think there was so much going on and she was so hungry she just wolfed down the bottle without so much as a blink. I had been trying regularly every couple of weeks or so. I found it much easier to put her in her bouncy chair and give her the bottle than to have her on my lap. Anyway, to cut a long story short, shes 2 now and very affectionate and sociable with lots of different people. Only mummy will do when she's very upset/tired though. I think all babies are 'touchy' to some extent - please don't worry and try and let her have you as much as she wants. That will help her to feel secure which in turn will encourage her sociability. HTH, good luck.

Hi Bea, I didn't bother trying dd with a bottle and used a cup for expressed milk very early on, in fact I think she was about 11 weeks. I bought the Heinz baby basics soft spout which has a v slow flow and she took to it fine (started by putting a few drops from corner of beaker into her mouth, then she got the idea!) I think it helped as she still wanted me for comfort but I could happily leave her for a few hours and so didn't gain dependance on bottles, which can be hard to get rid of. I had always thought that young babies would 'need' to use bottles for milk but I'm glad I took the advice of my Mother as it was so simple. Hope that helps

Bea - I've got a 4 month old too. He refused a bottle (expressed milk) but at 17 weeks suddenly accepted it.
I found offering it to him in his chair rather than on my lap helped, and he seemed to show more of an interest after he had tasted solid food (realised that tasty stuff doesn't necessarily come from boobs?).
Hang on in there. Good luck.

Hey Lizzer, I think i bought one of those Heinz Baby Basics, but i thought the spout looks incredibly wide,plus the 'soft spout' is not that soft? Have o got the wrong one!?

Bea

Hey everyone, me and the monkey have started to wean now, and she's taken to it quite well!!! Hoorah! Also she seems to be a little more interested in the bottle, only a few experimental sucks and chokes, but hopefully we will get there? I too think that she's beginning to cotton on that food comes from elsewhere other than my boobs! She eat baby rice and corrots the other day and slept through the night!!! However, i woke up at 5:30 am with a huge right boob and had to get up and express!!! How depressingly frustrating huh? She slept right on until 7:30!! If only i could be attached to a milk pump, so i wouldn't need to get up!!! Sigh!!

Thanks for all the help!
Bea

hi i have a daughter of 6 months who never stops whinging !shese still on formula milk and a good 3 meals a day . i no its not hunger ! she cant amuse herself and gets bored really quick with all the toys u give her and only stays on her playmat for 10 mins before she starts moaning . The only thing that makes her happy is being swaddled . she has been swaddled from day 1 as i did with my son .. and being swaddled and having the dummy is the only time she is happy .. apart from if ure entertaining her or shese on your lap .. she just never seems happy and seems to always be tired during the day althou she seems to sleep well during the night and does not wake up untill the earliest 6am after going to bed at 8pm . i was just wondering if anyone else is going thru the same ! and if they are have they got any ideas ! help !!
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