11 month old wont be put down or left with anyone else!!! aghhhhhhhhhh

[lilypond1]

my 11month old son is lovely, cuddly, smiley etc..... but if i need to do anything such as housework, decorating etc.... he will scream and scream until i pick him up, then he stops instantly!! his 3 year old sister goes to nursery and loves it, ive been trying with him at the same nursery for 8 weeks now and he will just scream until i return to pick him up (it doesnt matter if i leave him for 30mins or 3 hours) i dont have a clue how i can stop him getting so angry at being without me!! it really is rage with him, what can i do?

My son went through the same sort of thing. ahd to alawasy be in sight and singing to him, or carrying him around. Have you tried putting him in front of the childrens channel on tele? Then sneak out of the room and hopefullly he will get used to it. You wont be able to do the housework carrying him around forever, i cant anymore with my 18month old and weused to do the washing together, the washing up, drying up, hoovering, put the washing out and it killed my back. He has to learn that mummy cant always be there or you will never be able to go out and what happens if (god forbid) you should end up poorly and not be able to get out of bed or be in hospital. Also try to get him used to other peoples faces, its always easier to leave him with some one familiar and you need to show that you trust that person, and actually trust them. The baby will pick up on it if you dont or if you arent happy to leave them there. They are professionals and they have sen and done it all before. x

thanks ellenandbump, i do try to leave him on his own at home with toys etc...... but the second he realises im not there its full scale rage!!! i think im going to try leaving him on the floor or in his walker while i do bits and bobs and just let him scream (no-one ever died from doing that!!!) he must realise sooner or later that i always come back!!! aghhhhhhh so difficult!! how did you sort it with your little boy?

Try singing to him so that he can still hear you ( dont worry if you sound like a strangled cat, i do) but sometimes that works, just o know that mummy is still there. x