3 YEAR OLD WHO ACTS LIKE A TEENAGER

[lynn7300]

My once gorgeous little boy is now acting like a selfish spolit teenager....doesnt listen, doesnt do as he his told...just says no go away...not sure what to do...im fed of ignoring it, shouting at him....etc any adivce

He's not acting like a teenager, he's behaving like a three year old. Try treating him like one.

I'm sorry, that was unecessarily blunt of me.

How much do you actually interact with him? Poor behaviour is often caused by boredom and/or attention-seeking, and ignoring him or yelling at him won't solve that. Small children do need a lot of input.

Yup - the 'terrible twos' go on for YEARS!

The more you shout, the less notice they take. You need to pick your arguments - so when you come in, he gets an award star for hanging his coat up. If he doesn't no star, so you don't need to get into a yelling match with him about it. It is a lot easier in the long run, or you end up constantly yelling at him to do things, stop doing things, listen to you and do what he is told, behave, eat properly......... Not that I am a yelly-mum or anything...

Familiar to me. DS is 3 in December and we have slamming doors, arguing back, screaming 'NOOOOO' and storming about or throwing things. Distraction is the only thing that really works for me "oooh look out of the window it's a bird/dog/tiger, let's go outside and see!" or "bet you can't race up the stairs before me!" sort of thing. It is exhausting sometimes though. Really horrible or dangerous behaviour (DS does a nice line in throwing himself bodily against the glass doors to make a point, which he knows will bring me flying across the room instantly) gets a couple of minutes on the naughty step but has mixed results in our house to be honest.

thanks all i try and spend as much time as i can but we have a 3 moth old baby which takes alot of time...i do play with him when my little one is sleeping we go for walks, parks play goups he does get more attention than most three year olds...but its hard when hes being unpleasent most of the time though

I think you've just answered your problem - new baby!

I have a 4 month old and know exactly where you're coming from. My eldest still wants the baby to go to another house and he's 5!!

I found the 3's a far worse age than the 2's, and if you add an addition to your family it's bound to make it harder for your DS. Your DS is adapting to growing older too, he's finding his feet more and changing into a little boy with his own opinions, wants and thoughts and he's not developed enough to express his feelings in a rational way.

The baby seems to have upset him, and if you carry on with what you're doing I'm sure time will settle him.

Do you have a routine? So he knows what time is his time and what time is baby's time? I would try and treat him the same as before baby came along, not harder on him, or softer, just the same. And maybe try and get him involved with the baby more?

Easy to say I know....
Good luck!

thanks everyone.....i dont have a set time to play with him thats a good idea though :-)