dh has just told me that our ds has confided in him about an incident that happened at a play centre this afternoon. Ds (8) was there at a party & I was in another part of the centre with his 2yr old sister. He came over upset & told me another boy (7) had punched him & pushed him down a slide deliberately. I told him to stay away from the boy & play with his friend x instead.
(And now for the bit dh just told me).The 7 yr old boy saw him telling me about what happened & once I had gone he came over & shouted at ds for telling of him, punched & kicked him again & then proceeded to go & tell his own mum that my ds had kicked him. She then went & told my ds off! I really wish ds had told me at the time as I would have had no hesitation talking to this boys mother & setting her straight, but now the moment has passed & I'm feeling angry about it & don't think I can do anything to set things right.
Personally I don't agree with telling other people's dcs off (unless I see them in the act of hurting someone else). So even if my dc had been in the wrong I wouldn't be happy she had words with him, (that's my job,) & as I know my ds, I know for a fact he has told the truth. He does enjoy rough & tumble but he has NEVER deliberately hurt another child!