Ihave known for years there was something wrong, but so called proffesionals told me I was imagining it, only today after my d being in a clinic for nearly a year, they finally said RAD or maybe borderline personality disorder, in many ways a relief, after self harm and suicide attempts, drugs, alcohol and the deed at least I know now, d is 14. I am sitting here typing through my tears because she is about to be released into the community, but not to me they are putting her into care, because my morals are to high, becaue I want to pick her up from her nights out, because I don.t want her to smoke and so on and dont want these boys who are 4 years plus older than her taking advantage of, . her, she is adopted and they are always looking for love, the guys she goes for are always older and in other relationships so my d is just another string to their bow, only it sems that it is more important to keep d happy and not say no and prevoke self harm or worse, proffesionals say nothing to her about her conduct, so that makes m the bad guy/ At this moment my heart is breaking, I dont know how I can watch her with foster parents, I waited so long to be a mum,and she came home a 14 months old....and now at 14 years she's and i am already grieving for my lost child