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does your 4 yr old argue/answer back and do they brag?

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familyfun · 08/11/2011 11:34

dd is quiet and shy at school and at all new places but is very loud/confident at home.
she says she is the cleverest at scool, the best swimmir, the prettiest, the nicest etc. we praise her but never tell her she is better or worse than anyone else, we dont compare her to others. ive explained its not kind to others and she should compliment her friends if anything but she just says but i am the cleverest/prettiest. dp says their parents willl think its coming from us, like we are telling her she is prettier than their child which they will think is awful.
is this normal?
she lets kids walk all over her and take off her so i told her to stand up for herself and if someone is mean say dont be mean to me in a loud voice. she now has taken this to mean, if someone scooters near her she says, oy get away from me, get out my way, quite aggressively.
at home she argues and answers back a lot. she refuses to wear trousers and will say im not wearing that, i am going out in a summer dress, she thinks she can tell me and her dad what to do, get me a drink now, i am having chocolate today and if we say no is no stop argueing, she just keeps gpoing saying yes i am.
she is pedantic, i told her to take her tops off this morning, she argued that she b
wasant wearing tops, she was wearing a top and a cardigan, i told her to stop smart mouthing and she goes on and on how can a mouth be smart.
she doesnt know when to stop.
is this the terrible fours?

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hillyhilly · 08/11/2011 11:37

Not only 4s, my almost 7 year old still struggles with a lot of what you describe especially the one-upmanship which I loathe.

MoaningMinnieWhingesAgain · 08/11/2011 11:41

You have stolen my daughter Grin She is 4 too.

Yes, I am very clever Mummy, Yes but I always look pretty. No trouble with self esteem anyway.

And oh so pedantic. I try hard not to bicker with her. But we are so alike it gets quite hilarious. She tries to tell me off as well - hands on hips - 'you are very cheeky and ruuuude Mummy!'

I am hoping it is a phase

shazbean · 08/11/2011 11:48

Can I join your club?!

familyfun · 08/11/2011 11:49

yes me aqnd dd are very alike Blush, dp says we will be murder when she is a teenager.
dd told her dad to think about his actions the other day, she doesnt get that we are adults and she is our child and sometimes needs to be quiet and listen.
i swore id never tell my kids to shut up but she grinds me down and this morning i wa sawful i told her to shut up and stop being stupid, which i am so ashamed of.

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shazbean · 08/11/2011 11:52

Yeah, when she's nice she is very very nice but when she has a strop it's like living with a teenager so heaven help us.
DH says the same, we are too alike Blush !!

Aliceinboots · 08/11/2011 11:56

She sounds exactly like my DD aged 4 3/4. I am very fearful of the teenage years.

slimyak · 08/11/2011 12:10

Yep I have a 4 1/2 year old DD just the same, she's just lovely a lot of the time but there are days or more specifically times when she's tired that it's like living with a ticking bomb.. I'm hoping it's a phase and I'm just trying to stick to my guns, pick my battles, not bite, give positive praise and all that parenting stuff we're supposed to do. Then head for the bathroom for a quiet ffs rant to the mirror. Oh yea and head for the wine after bedtime. Some days do however feel like a major nag off.

familyfun · 09/11/2011 20:16

ok, so today i swapped her and she has been an angel all day including skipping into school laughing and kissing baby sisters head better when she tumbled Smile, i think i have twins that swap randomly. Grin

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