Tantrums at 11 months?

[lallymc]

My DS is now 11 months old and has always been a really smiley happy little boy. Just recently, as he has become more mobile and vocal, he has started to be quite boistrous and "difficult" at times. It's not so much a tantrum, more not wanting to be picked up ,changed etc he pushes me away and hits out at times. Is this is a normal phase of his development?

Totally normal - he is learning to express/vocalise his opinions - only another 17 years more to go

Thanks I thought as much!!

Dds the same, she's starting to say n n n which i assume means no. She also throws herself on the floor when I try and walk in a direction she doesn't want to go, she lies flat on the floor when she doesn't want to do something or be picked up (being pg this is really hard to pick her up)
She's 12mo so I would say normal behaviour (although dd is very strong willed)

Both of mine were like this. Quite impressive isn't it?

I have the male version of addictediam's dd. Exactly the same!

Yup, another one here DD (10 months) screams "noooooooo" whilst gritting her teeth

Yep. 11.5 months here and at times i swear he's had a personality transplant. The CM has also noticed it. He screams like you're murdering him when he's having his nappy changed, does the same when getting dressed, or into his PJs, he's impatient when he can't reach a toy, or sitting in his high chair/ car seat and wants to get out, and is generally pushing all the boundaries to their limit and being very up and down. First he wants picking up, then he's pushing you away and trying to get down. He has also become very clingy with me. DH in particular is finding it very hard and has begun to worry that we have a hell raiser who will end up getting diagnosed with ADHD. I keep telling him it's a perfectly normal phase, but it has little effect when DS is smacking the hell out of the TV with his plastic rake....

I am so pleased i'm not the only one. This is a very difficult stage, especially when you're used to having a placid and very easy going baby.

How are you supposed to deal with it???? (DD is only 5 months, but I suppose I have all that to look forward to!)

When dd throws herself on the floor I just pick her up and carry on or wait for her to stop then carry on.

When she hits or scratches, I say no hit/scratch/bite etc! Then pick her up remove her from me sit her on the floor and after 20-30 seconds pick her up (shes normally cryinh and upset) say 'you don't hit, it hurts' cuddle her ask for a kiss tell her I love her and move on.

I don't know if its the 'right' thing to do as shes so little so doesn't understand time out, but it does seem to be working. She automatically tries to kiss me after her 'time out' and shes hitting less

Oh mantana now you are describing ds. The wanting to be picked up, then pushing hands away that are holding him is very frustrating especially.

MadameJ Here it is NoNoNo while sweeping hands in front of him and kicking. To virtually everything.

For months now I have been saying gentle, gentle when he grabs a chunk of me / another baby / a cat and showing him gentle stroking. I actually use it when he is attacking the tv too. Does seem to work, kindof.

I've read its good to name their emotions too - "Are you feeling angry because mummy won't let you eat the fishfood?" And explain why they can't, they won't understand probably but I'd like to get in the habit.

Professionals keep saying, "He's probably very bright." I'd like a thick one tbh.