10mo tantrums

[Timeoutofmind]

My 10mo is lovely but she's got to the stage where she tantrums if she doesn't get her own way, and I just wondered how I should be dealing with the behaviour?

Most of the time I distract her and this seems to calm her down, but I was wondering if anything would stop her tantrumming in the first place?

Examples are she crawls over to the tv and starts playing with the wires so I say 'no DD' and move her away and she starts crying, at that point I would try and distract her with another toy!

Me too! DS is 1 and it exactly the same. Apart from saying no and not giving in, I can't think of anything we can do!

Sorry to say it but it does escalate a bit when their older, common practice is to make sure their not hungry, thirsty or tired and try and ignore or distract, but I do find myself saying "calm down" a lot. If their mobile I find going off and doing something else like loading the washing machine quite good.

Mine too...10 months today and we often refer to her as paddytantrumpants! We use distraction, sometimes it works sometimes not so much...often we give in (as long as it's not dangerous).

I had the same prob with my lo when he was around 10 months too. I got fed up of hearing people say "he can't have a tantrum at that age... you must not be meeting his needs" .......but he really did!

It went on for several months (seemed like forever at the time). I tried the distraction method to begin with but he got very wise to it and it didn't work after a short time. After trying all different techniques, the one that won was ignoring - much to the dismay of some people. If I asked him not to touch something, I moved him elsewhere with something else to occupy him. If he screamed, he screamed.

Luckily by about 14-15 months he got the message. He's just turned 2 now and is actually very well behaved. Tantrums are extremely rare (I don't remember the last one!) - although I do hope there's not another phase of them to come.

Well I'm glad we're not alone!!! :-)

I just think they learn pretty quickly that if they tantrum they get what they want so I don't want to encourage it!!

Tigerlilly - I am gonna try and follow your advice and ignore her, thank you!!