What's "normal" for six year old girls and friendships?

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I struggle with my dd and am often told off for being too hard on her by dh. But I find she is bossy and a bit controlling. However her teacher at school says she's got lots of friends and although she's had fallings out with her best friend from last year, she's not short of playdates out of school. How do your six year olds behave towards others and what do you do if there's a problem? The thread about the 3.5 year old has reignited all my worst fears!

6 yr old girls always fall in and out of friends. Best just to keep out of it and leave her too it.

Bossy and controlling would probably describe the majority of my 6 year olds class - not just the girls either!

There seems to be a real power struggle at this age...it started in year one and seems to be continuing a bit in yr 2. My DD seems to have regular fallings out with her friends because they can't decide what game to play or what character they have to be in the game - they're all trying to call the shots. It's bloody tedious. I would say this I guess, but DD isn't particularly bossy or controlling so it tends to be friends falling out with her because she wouldn't fall into line rather than the other way round. I just talk to her a lot about 'compromise' when she describes these falling outs and how you should treat people the way you want to be treated yourself. There's not a lot else I can do as most of this bossy and controlling behaviour is a) happening in school and b) directed AT her. I don't envy her teachers mind, having to deal with this nonsense all day long! I'm guessing the art of 'compromise' is a bit like empathy - it takes a while to develop.

They can only learn how to get on socially by trial and error. If they are too controlling other DC will avoid and they will learn to amend behaviour. She seems to have friends so she can't be too bad.