Crying 8 1/2 year old

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My DS is 8 1/2 and has always been a sensitive child, we moved to New Zealnd from the UK nearly 3 months ago everything was fine at first but now he crys about everything, mostly when it is very windy and when it rains,he says he does not feel safe here! we moved from a house to a bungalow and does not like being on the ground floor! I have tried everything reasoning with him explaining things to him showing him online what causes thunder and lightning etc, shouting taking toys off him etc, he can be up till 10pm still crying wakes in middle of the night and wakes up the whole household i alsohave a DD 12. Today has been awful to the point i have been in tears also i know alot of this is due to moving to the other side of the world and missing family and friends but i just don't no what to do anymore.
He is quite an intelligent child and worries about earthquakes we live by the sea so thinks we will get a tsunami we also live near a mountain which is a dormant volcano and very unlikely to erupt but he worries about this aswell.
I just don't no what to do he constantly cries and has tantrums other family members have tried talking to him and he promises to stop but then it rains and it starts agan what do i do!!??

Aw bless - can't say I blame him, the weather is really crap at this time of year, so a little one, not used to it but old enough to notice it, may find it all a bit daunting. As to the earthquake/tsunami stuff, can you maybe have a fun learning session with him about the weather conditions here? He's showing how it's all been a 'bit much' for him in maybe the only way he can express it.

My dd is nearly 8 and has gone to see the school counsellor for the first time this morning. We moved over here two and a half year ago now and it has really really affected her. Her world is tiny. She has two parents and a teacher who are the only adults who give a hoot about her. She is happy at school in a way but not happy in herself. She worries a lot and she panics about things

Although she is not saying it is living here that makes her sad and vunerable I think that it is.

I better go and pick her up and see how it all went.

If it's causing him and you so much distress then maybe you should go to see a child psychologist. Maybe he's expressing his anxiety about his new surroundings by transforming it into fear of storms and volcanoes?

Hi thanks for replying, i think your right in the fact that it's missing family and friends that's causing the problems he is not in school yet immigration told us it would be quicker to apply for visas here and were still waiting!! think this is also a reason for him being upset as has too much time on his hands have tried taking him to the museam to use his brain and that is where he saw about the volcano's and earthquakes, he has cousins and friends children here to play with so has contact with other children he was very close to my nephew and think that he is what he's missing it's so hard feel awful that us moving has caused him all this upset.