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Help with 4 yr old

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GobHoblin · 29/10/2011 13:51

I wonder if Mumsnet wisdom have any thoughts to help a friend of mine. The following 2 posts were from her on a separate private forum. I wondered if anybody here would be able to help her? I have her permission to post of course.

What do you do with a 4 year old that won't talk to anyone not children, not adults not even grandparents. Instead when addressed he bursts into tears. I actually can't cope with him very well ATM there is NEVER a simple day :(

They dont have a school nurse. Havent spoken doc. He has always been a difficult child socially but past few weeks have been unreal...this week especially.
Last weekend we were at inlaws and hes normally fine, but as soon as his grandad spoke to him he started crying.....2hours it went on he was hysterical.
Similar incident tonight a little girl he knows said Hi, he ignored her, She kept on and I said * say hello, he shook his head and started the meltdown in the street. I have been, nice,been harsh, taken away privileges, bribed him. I dont know what else I can do, he ignores the kids in the playground when they talk to him while Im there.
Nursery say hes making friends but did say when the teachers ask a direct question he does need time to answer. I probably have failed him socially, we went to baby groups etc but I stopped when he hit 18 months as he was so difficult. I dont know how to help him. He cries all the time at any situation happy or sad. Its like he cant control his emotions or something. I am at my wits end.

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mousyfledermaus · 29/10/2011 13:59

oh that sounds sad.
I would take him to the gp. and maybe push for a referral for psychological assessment.
my ds was ver shy, in nursery would only talk to the other children and not to adults. thankfully the nursery was brill and assigned the only person he would talk tto as his key worker. she worked wonders to get him out of his shell. now at reception he is doing fine. still shy but not 'mute' anymore.

daiawnti · 29/10/2011 14:33

Hi, read your post what a difficult situation. I agree with mousy and think your friend needs to push for an assessment. I would also repost this on the special needs board as they may be much more help.

girliefriend · 29/10/2011 14:55

Sounds like he needs a child psychologist tbh.

I would be very worried and my immediate concern is that something not nice is happening to this little boy which is making him extrememly anxious Sad

lesstalkmoreaction · 29/10/2011 15:00

I would ask for help through the local children's centre, they would have all the agencies available and could make a referral. The help would then be in place and would continue into school, best to get things moving asap.

GobHoblin · 30/10/2011 12:38

Thanks all for your input, i will also post on special needs board as suggested :)

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