Cant get DD to sleep in own bed

[lastroseofsummer]

I know I know, its my own fault - if I hadnt started it I wouldnt have this problem but myy dd is still coming in to sleep in my bed at night. Its awful. Ive tried everything to get her to stop, ie bathing her and reading with her in her bed so she is all warm and tired etc, letting her go to sleep in my room and then moving her into her own etc etc. She is 4 and I am totally overwrought with it.

I tried when she was born to keep her in a cot/moses basket but she screamed herself nearly ill.

what do I do? anyone out there had this problem and fixed it?

DD2 was getting worse & worse about going to her own bed recently so I've started a Xmas countdown. I told her that Santa sends his elves out for a few weeks before Xmas to everyone's house to check which rooms all the children sleep in. If the children aren't in their right beds, the elves don't know who to put on the list so Santa might not be able to bring presents if he doesn't know where to put them.

It's working well so far ( two weeks in) as it's topical and, so far, she's not constantly asking if it's Xmas yet so by the time it comes hopefully she'll be so used to just going straight ot her own bed she'll stick with it.

I've also been letting her have her Winne the Pooh lullaby thing that she had as a baby. It'd runout of batteries and been shoved in a cupboard but she found it recently when we were clearing out her wardrobe. The lights aren''t going yet just the tune.

I've done all the usual charts, promises, threats with both her & DD1 but this is working for now so I'll stick with it.

Good luck.

thanks for that - im in despair to be honest. if I dont either get into her bed or allow her into mine there will be an hour of screaming - its so difficult to put up with both on an emotional level and physical as I still have to get up the next day and work!

will try the chart idea though!

thanks

Is she scared?
DD (3.5) sleeps with me most nights (although I have recently split from her dad), she will sleep on her own sometimes.

I asked her why and she told me she was scared. My fault as we have been playing monsters a lot. I play less scarying games now and she seems to be more willing to sleep in her own bed.

babyocho I dont think she is scared, she just likes the company, heat etc. she likes having someone there and will ask in a loud voice if she wakes up alone "who is minding me?"

my sleep is constantly broken with her, im so tired