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2 months old and no naps!

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Viagrafalls · 25/10/2011 10:46

Please does anyone have any idea why my 2 month old has given up sleeping during the day?? At best I get 1 ten minute nap in the morning and maybe another in the afternoon but then at 5 she just wants to go to bed and its all I can do to keep her up until 6.30 when I feed her and put her to bed. Its killing me, she is still feeding every 3hours and I am so tired.
She wakes up and then cries because she is clearly exhausted. I dont know what to do!

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ArlingtonStringham · 25/10/2011 11:55

If she wants to go to sleep at 5 why not let her?

My 7 week old sleeps pretty randomly during the day/evening but is usually asleep fairly consistently from 11/midnight -> 3/4am then wakes for feed, then goes back to sleep and is awake again at 7/8 or sometimes even 9 for another feed so this is when I get my nights sleep too.

He feeds at least every 2 hours, often more, during the day and I just work round him whenever he ends up napping (or not napping!) after feeds etc. I suppose at this age they need slightly less sleep than very teeny babies, if that is what you are used to.

Tigresswoods · 25/10/2011 11:55

They go through this, you do what you have to do to get them to sleep.

Sling
Push chair
Car
Rocking

etc etc

"This too will pass"

greenshoot19 · 25/10/2011 12:05

Agree with Tigresswoods, do whatever you can to get her to sleep, she certainly needs day time sleep being so mini, and you need the rest too! My sister in law had a similar probably with her son, my girl (8 months old than her cousin) was sleeping more than him in the day when he was first born! Some babies just know how to get themselves to sleep better than others when they are tired, some need more help in being taught how to sleep. My girl would often fall asleep then after 20 mins wake up and I would persist (for sometimes up to half an hour) in helping her get back to sleep as I knew she was still tired. This went on for a good while but eventually she learned how to get herself back to sleep after stirring and have a good 2 hour lunch time nap.

Keep persisting, you are doing so well! :)

HTH

p.s. if you are not adverse to dummies, i found one really helped with my daughter and sleep.

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Viagrafalls · 25/10/2011 19:25

Well, we use a dummy and it works great, she sleeps pretty much all night unless she is grizzling for a feed. The thing is she just suddenly stopped sleeping unless she was on me and BF to sleep. This is nice but not so practical when it is the only time she sleeps during the day, not in the sling, not in the pram and not in her moses where she sleeps so well at night! Add to that the fact that it means I don't get a single minute in the day - and she is just clearly so miserable and tired...
at this too shall pass

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Viagrafalls · 25/10/2011 19:26

Greenshoots , I think you are right, I do go back a few times after she wakes in bed but maybe I just need to really persist and go back time and time again...!

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Octaviapink · 25/10/2011 19:47

Why are you trying to keep her up till 6.30? If she wants to sleep at 5 then put her to bed. She may want another nap then and have a proper bedtime later (my two both had three or four naps a day at this stage - 1.5 hours awake, then down for 45 minutes). Is she going down hungry, or do you feed her just before she goes to sleep? Their tummies often wake them up when they're this small. Is she really awake all day?

mumblecrumble · 25/10/2011 20:03

Our little one slept brilliantly in her moses basket then cot at night but just refused to sleep unles son me or sling on daddy's back. Or in the buggy which involved me walking round when all I wanted to do was flop!

Feel I am no position to advise, I suppose i would beg as trusted adult to them out for a walk!

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Viagrafalls · 25/10/2011 20:42

She is really awake all day, save ten minutes here or there in my arm. Maybe then I will also try to see what happens if i let her go to bed at 5, I guess i just am happy with the 6.30/7 bedtime that we have a nd would like to keep it but have her more rested during the day?

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Octaviapink · 25/10/2011 20:46

Don't worry that if you let her go to sleep at 5 then it'll last forever - bedtimes are quite a moveable feast. Could she be hungry? 3 hours between feeds is quite long for an 8 week old - how about trying to feed her every 2 hours? Mine both fed every two hours around the clock at this age.

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Viagrafalls · 25/10/2011 20:53

Besides, even if I let her go to bed at 5, it would still mean her being tired and crying all day!

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bethylou · 25/10/2011 20:57

Can I just ask whether you have discounted reflux? DS1 only slept in my arms for the first four months (but would then sleep for up to half an hour). Every time I put him down into the cot, he woke within 5 mins which became a joke between us, but a very tiring one for me. However, we didn't realise that he had reflux and once he was on the right medicine he was able to stay asleep lying down. The reflux basically got much worse when he was lying flat and it woke him as soon as I put him in that position. You say she is miserable - this could of course be because she is so tired, but it could be a sign of reflux. If you want to read more of the signs and symptoms, go to the all new deluxe reflux thread in the breast and bottle feeding area. Sorry if I've put you off track, but thought I'd mention it in case. Good luck. I remember how exhausting this can be.

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Viagrafalls · 25/10/2011 21:00

Ah, thank-you - I'm reasonably sure its not reflux as its only started to happen in the last few days, about two weeks ago. doesn't reflux start earlier? Also she doesnt seem to be in , just tired!

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Viagrafalls · 25/10/2011 21:01

in pain I mean

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Viagrafalls · 25/10/2011 21:02

And she wil not feed more often than every 3 hours - she goes bonkers if I try to feed her sooner!

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Octaviapink · 25/10/2011 21:05

About the going to bed at 5, though - sleep begets sleep so if she's settled earlier in the evening it might help her nap the next day.

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Viagrafalls · 25/10/2011 21:14

Well, I'm going to try just about all your suggestions ladies - it has been a tough beginning for me, partner away, plenty of BF complications and I have really struggled with the tiredness so am willing to try anything and everything. Am off to bed now but will check in tomorrow for any more solutions!

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bethylou · 29/10/2011 21:10

Reflux doesn't always start from the beginning - check out the symptoms just in case. Don't forget to change one thing at a time so you can see what effect it has. I'd also like to risk suggesting looking up the E.A.S.Y. (eat, activity, sleep, 'you' time) routine from the baby whisperer. It is definitely not for everybody and is like marmite to mums on here. For me, it helped me sort out a routine and that included sleeps. Ignore me if it's not for you!

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